How to be awesome, Deux

The website Sweatpants & Coffee posts some great stuff that resonates with me – I posted part one of 44 Ways to Cultivate Happiness here, and a couple of days ago they came out with the second part of that list which can be found here. I love these articles and found myself nodding my head at several of the ideas listed.

A few of my favorites are:

#28 Find your Fun. This is one that I often have to remind myself to do. It seems odd that I have to plan on having fun, but if I don’t, I end up cranky and out of sorts and it takes several minutes of contemplation to figure out “oh! No wonder I feel so stabby, I haven’t had done anything fun lately!” It doesn’t have to be anything grand either, it can be watching a funny movie on a Friday night at home, or talking to a friend who makes me laugh, or scoring some deals at a thrift store.

#36 Say what you need to say. Nothing is more of a joy-killer than seething resentment. I lived like this for a long time and it was no bueno. There are ways to express your needs that don’t invite conflict – avoiding conflict is one of the reasons I didn’t want to speak up, but peace at any cost is no way to live. Also it’s not good for your health to keep things bottled up.

#37 Rest. In our current culture where Busy is King, we (I) often feel guilty if I’m not doing something productive, but we (I) need downtime. According to the article, being bored leads to creativity and inspiration. For example, my 14 year old  decided yesterday to design a very cool swimming pool complete with swim up snack bar and a hidden cave with a water fall. When I asked her how she came up with this she shrugged and said “I got bored.” Go get bored and see what creative ideas you can come up with.

#38 Take a nap. Why do we not, as a culture, take a nap everyday after lunch? Other countries do this, don’t they? Can you imagine how much better we would all get along if we all had to shut down between 1 and 2:00 every day to take a nap??? One of my very good friends took the 3rd row seats out of her SUV, put in a big fluffy comforter and pillows and every day at lunch she would go out to her car and nap for 55 minutes, then eat lunch at her desk afterward. I always thought this was the most genius thing ever.

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Anything on this second half of the list resonate with you?

Don’t forget, you can still join our Very Best Self Experiment – jump in any time! Maybe something on this list is a habit you could work on for the month of July.

For my US readers, Happy 4th of July tomorrow! And for those of us who have to work on Friday – I feel your pain. Womp Womp. :/

Cull of the Wild

Remember my post where I was totally crabby about social media? Well I’m happy to report that I went through my Instagram and Facebook and UNFOLLOWED a bunch of people and/or pages that were messing with my zen vibe. I totally deleted Snapchat off my phone because I just find it irritating. I also deleted Pinterest because I just don’t look at it anymore – I don’t like the layout now and it doesn’t seem as intuitive as it used to when it first came out. I don’t have Twitter on my phone either because I feel sort of “meh” about it and I rarely check it. So FB and IG are the main ones that I took a fine-tooth comb to.

What a difference!!

Perusing IG is now a pleasure because my feed is now filled with baby animals, gorgeous scenery, funny webcomics, and actual people I actually know in my actual life. Facebook…will always be Facebook but I decreased the number of popular pages I follow and sought out actual people who I haven’t heard from in awhile. I think that’s the difference for me – filling my feeds with friends instead of randos who think they’re famous. Except for that one news chick who does funny posts from her car – I love her. I feel a kindred spirit with her. She made the cut.

I noticed at my local library a book on the New Release shelf that I was tempted to read but I decided to save it for another day because I was already checking out 2 other books. It was called:

Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now by Jaron Lanier.

Wow. Delete ALL social media accounts??? That is awfully tempting except who would validate all my choices and my very existence??? I’m kidding! I’m just kidding. But yeah… I wonder if I would be happier or at least more content (and probably more productive) if I didn’t automatically pull my phone out and open up a social media site whenever I have a few minutes to spare. I often wish social media had never become a “thing”, along with wishing phones had never become smart. Yes it was exciting, and cool, and innovative when smart phones first appeared on the market, but has it improved our lives enough to counter balance all the not-so-good side effects of having a mini computer in our pockets or purses all the time now? I can see myself going off on a tangent here – that’s a post for another day.

Anyway, I do feel better since I culled the nonsense from my social media. Gone are the people and posts that annoyed me, made me anxious, or made me feel bad about myself. I need to remind myself to do this at least once a year, because as I change so do my social media needs. When I first started really working on myself (my body image, my self-esteem, etc) I needed pages that were radically body positive or preached self compassion, now I find that I don’t need those messages as much so I unfollowed some of those sites (I kept a couple for good measure though). So if you haven’t gone through your social media accounts lately, I highly recommend taking a critical eye to the pages/people you follow and getting rid of any that bring you anything less than a pleasant feeling. Social media should make you want to be more social…not less.