The Sassy Pear

Finding my way through my forties

Mimosa Sunday Afternoon — February 4, 2019

Mimosa Sunday Afternoon

Okay I know I said in my last post that I would show you how you could use something pretty to help with your intentions for this year but I’m still working on that post. In the meantime, I thought I’d tell you about my perfectly lovely Sunday afternoon yesterday.

My daughter had a volleyball tournament yesterday morning (a continuation from Saturday) and we had to be there at 7:15 a.m. which meant we had to leave the house at 6:30 a.m. which meant I had to get up at 5:30 a.m. Getting up at 5:30 a.m. on a Sunday morning is the most disgusting thing I can think of. It just shouldn’t be allowed. Anyway, after the tournament, I had my husband drop me off at my book club meeting where we discussed this book:

If you have read it, what did you think of this book? We had one of the most lively discussions we’ve ever had in our book club! I still have so many questions, but it was fun to dissect it and discuss our theories.  I really love my little book club group!

We meet at the same restaurant every time – it’s kind of an upscale pub-type place with large booths that have high back rests, so you really feel like you have some privacy. They have great appetizers and also they have some really fun alcoholic beverages, if you’re into that sort of thing, which usually I’m not, but on occasion I’ll have a little somethin’ if the mood strikes, and yesterday the mood struck.

I was already tired from getting up at FIVE FREAKING THIRTY ON A SUNDAY MORNING and my nerves were a little shot from being in a huge echo-y venue for several hours where whistles a’ plenty were blowing, and so I decided that a Peach Bellini Mimosa would be a nice treat since I didn’t have to drive home.

Hey guess what happens when you’re a lightweight and not used to drinking alcohol?!?!? You get very tipsy, very quickly. And by “you”, I definitely mean “me”.  I thought that most of the alcohol would be absorbed by the soft pretzel I had but apparently not, because when I stood up to leave, my head was SWIMMY. Not so much that anyone noticed, and not so much that I couldn’t walk a straight line, but I was for sure feeling every ounce of vodka in that drink (I mean to be honest, there was probably only one ounce of vodka in the whole thing but see above: lightweight).

I decided that while I waited for my ride home, I would walk to the only other place open on a Sunday in our little downtown area – the antique store – which was thankfully on the same block as the restaurant.

I walked around the store for a little while and even though I’m trying to curb my impulse spending, I impulsively spent money on this:


It was a whole $10.

Had I not been tipsy, I probably wouldn’t have bought it, but at only $10 I think I did okay. Plus I really, really like it and it’s perfect for my smaller utensils, so I’m okay with my drunk purchase.

When I got home, I opened my bedroom window (it was an unusually balmy 70 degrees), laid down on my bed, and took the best nap of my life!! Super tired + little bit tipsy = mini coma. It was great!

It turned out to be a really nice day. The upside of waking up so early is that my Sunday felt like it was 37 hours long, but in a good way. I got to do lots of fun things and I even got to bed a decent hour. Maybe I should wake up at 5:30 a.m. every weekend?






Please enjoy this personally-curated list of mimosa related items that I now want to impulse-buy. (click on the pics to find them on Amazon)

Summer of Suspense — October 6, 2017

Summer of Suspense

I mentioned in my last post that I belong to a bookclub. The name of our book club is “We Don’t Talk About Book Club” and so by talking about book club here, I’m violating the number one rule of book club. If I seem to drop off the face of the planet anytime soon, you’ll know who to blame and you’ll know why. We take book club seriously.

Very. Seriously.

(just kidding, no we don’t. I mean yeah we love it, but sometimes wine is involved, so…)

Anyway, one of our selections earlier this summer was Ruth Ware’s In a Dark, Dark Wood.

I loved, loved this book! (And I have to tell you, my favorite thing about this book is the joke that Tara made when we selected it: “Is it cherry? Mahogany? Walnut? What kind of wood is it????”) If you love a good old fashioned whodunit, you will enjoy this book. Very Agatha Christie. There is a moment in the book where the main character is ticking off who the suspects are and their possible motives and I actually squealed with delight “YES! I freaking love this book!” The rest of the Bookclubbers loved it also, so we all agreed that our next selection should be:

The Woman in Cabin 10 also by Ruth Ware. I also really liked this one and it kept me guessing the whole time. It takes place on a smallish luxury yacht with interesting characters. I especially love the end and the way… well shoot, I can’t say anymore because I don’t want to ruin it for those of you who haven’t read it, but trust me when I say it is suspenseful and a really great read.

At this point we thought well heck, let’s just stay on a roll and finish out the summer with Ware’s final book:

This book is about 4 school friends who get in over their heads while playing…you guessed it…The Lying Game. I didn’t care for this one as much as the first two, but it was still suspenseful and it kept me entertained. Mel, another book club member, really liked it, but there was something a little darker about this one that disturbed me that I couldn’t really put my finger on. Maybe it was the setting (and old dilapidated Mill in a marsh) or just the subject matter, but I was glad to be finished with this one.

Since we ran out of Ruth Ware’s books to read, we turned to another suspense writer, Jane Harper.

I just started this one and I’m only a few chapters in, but so far so good. The story is set in Australia where a cop is called home to attend the funeral of a friend, and he sees that things are just not adding up right, so he stays to try and figure out what really happened. If I remember, I’ll come back and do an update once I finish the book.

I really loved our Summer of Suspense, but I think we might all be ready for something a little more light-hearted for awhile. Maybe a love story or a comedy. Have any good suggestions? Leave ’em in the comments below!

Happy Reading!


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Misplaced Angst — January 12, 2016

Misplaced Angst


I went through a phase for a couple of weeks where I just really hated my job. It’s somewhat boring, and I just feel that I’m not using my brain to it’s fullest potential here, but things like money and health care and 4 weeks of paid vacation keep me from walking away. One day I decided to really think about what it was that I was so unsatisfied with and here is the thought process that led me to figuring out what I really wanted:

  • For one thing, I really wish I had some female coworkers or even just some coworkers that I had something in common with – there really isn’t anyone here I can talk to. I don’t have much in common with my coworkers and with every other job I’ve had, I’ve always made a close female friendship from it.
  • Then I thought, okay why does it bother me so much that I don’t have any female coworkers? It’s because I don’t have anyone outside of work either that I have a friendly connection with to fill that void. If I had a social life outside of family and work, I might not feel so…
  • LONELY! I’m lonely! I have my mom & sister both within 40 minutes of me, and I have one friend who lives here in my town but they aren’t always available. I have  plenty of acquaintances, but I think it bothers me that most people I know wouldn’t think to invite me if a party were being held. I feel sort of invisible, which admittedly I’ve done to myself. When I don’t feel good about myself, I tend to withdraw (and I haven’t felt good about myself for a reeeeaaallly long time), but  I long for 3 or 4 close friends nearby. I want to feel like I’m a necessary part of a group.
  • I need to make some friends. But how? How do you make new friends when you’re in your 40s? How do you meet people who have the same interests as you?
  • Well, what interests do I have? Books! I love to read…so maybe…hmmm I wonder if there’s a book club in my town? I don’t know why I never thought of it before – a book club would be perfect for me! But if there is, how do I get invited?
  • The bookstore!! I’ll bet the local mom & pop bookstore knows of a book club!
  • Get your courage up Jill,  message the bookstore and see if they know of one. Put yourself out there – you’ll never know if you don’t ask.
  • Yay! They have a book club at the book store! AND THEY SAID THEY’D LOVE TO HAVE ME JOIN THEM!

And that is how I got invited to join a book club where hopefully I’ll at the least make some new acquaintances and at the most find some new BFFs. My first meeting is this Thursday and I’m nervous about it. I wish I already knew someone there, and maybe I will, who knows?  But I feel like I need to be brave and do this thing – this thing that scares me and moves me out of my comfort zone. Walking into a room full of strangers is intimidating, but I hope that I will get a feeling of belonging from it eventually. And even if I don’t make any super close friends, at least I’ll get to read and discuss books which is a win in itself. Of course, I could hate it and it could all go down in flames, but at least I’m making the effort. 🙂

So really, my angst about my job had nothing to do with my job. It was really about making connections and getting involved in my community. It feels scary to put myself out there, but I know I’m doing myself a huge favor by doing it. If this goes well, I might get even more involved with something else later, like working with the library or the local literacy group. I’ll have to see how this goes first.

Do you have any experience with a book club? Anything I should know or be aware of so I don’t make a total idiot of myself???


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