The Sassy Pear

Finding my way through my forties

Renovating Blogging — November 19, 2018

Renovating Blogging

Last week one of my favorite bloggers, V in the NW, wrote a post in response to The Bloggess, who wrote a post in response to Asha Dornfest, in which there was a call to return to blogging. This was my favorite part of Asha’s post, and what I’ve longed for, for a while now:

I’m talking old-school blogrolls and comments again, not for building influence or traffic, but for re-energizing community. Between us as friends and colleagues. Between us and our readers. We all miss that, but there’s nothing stopping us from doing that again. The currency wouldn’t be dollars or page views or virality. It would be the connections between us, once again. Not going back — this isn’t nostalgia. I’m suggesting the 2018 version of blogging and *real* online community.

I started blogging in 2007 and it was out of a need to connect with others and because I thought I had something to say. Back then, my obsession was with weight loss and so that’s the community I found myself in, and never had I seen such a supportive, encouraging group of people (mostly women, with a few guys thrown in too). When my focus shifted away from dieting, I found it difficult to write, because I thought my audience was still mostly women who were on restrictive diets who really weren’t interested in reading about mindfulness (or maybe I just didn’t know how to write about it in a way that would resonate with others), and also because I think this type of blogging was falling out of favor. Facebook was taking over the world, then Instagram and YouTube, and now it seems that Podcasting is the New Black. I think a lot of bloggers took to these social media outlets to post their thoughts in a new way, which is fine, but I just never had any desire to do that. I found it hard to write a post and send it out into the ethernet, not knowing if my community was still interested, or even there. And I will admit that when my favorite bloggers went silent, I stopped seeking out new bloggers to follow. I let my own involvement in this community slide, so I’m part of the problem too. (Side note: special thanks to those of you who have stuck with me since the beginning. You know who you are and I appreciate you still to this day. ❤)

But here’s the thing: I still love to write. I have a private online journal that I sometimes post to when I’m not sure that what I’m writing is appropriate for my blog, but really I just don’t post much anywhere anymore. But I miss it so much! I miss crafting an idea into well articulated words, I miss turning my jumbled thoughts into a paragraph that clarifies exactly how I feel. There is a certain high I get when I can finally express exactly what it is I want to say in exactly the way I want to say it. Kind of like finding that puzzle piece that you’ve been looking for  for an hour and locking it into place – it’s a small thing but feels so victorious! 

And the community! – it was so fun to read someone else’s blog and comment and know that they would read your blog and comment, and soon you became invested in these other lives and they became invested in yours and at one point in time, I knew, knew without a doubt, that if I called some of these women at 2:00 in the morning with a problem, they would absolutely answer the phone for me. THAT is community. (And that also is an extremely long run-on sentence but I don’t care. I said what I said.) 

So, I am answering the call! I want to build up this community again and I invite you to help me – list your active blog in the comments below, and if you had a blog that you haven’t posted to in ages, dust it off and list the name here and we’ll come visit you. Maybe you always wanted to start a blog but didn’t have the nerve…now is the perfect time to begin! Go start your blog and come back here and tell me what it is. 

Let’s make blogging fun again. Let’s make it a place where we can get inspiration and support and encouragement from one another. Let’s spend less time reading each other’s blurbs on FB/IG/Twitter and more time reading each other’s paragraphs. Let’s get to know each other again. 

Help me help you by telling me what to write. — July 5, 2018

Help me help you by telling me what to write.

My body and my brain are confused. With 4th of July being smack dab in the middle of the week, it creates a weird flow to the days. Tuesday felt like Friday, and today feels like a Monday, but it’s actually Thursday. When I had the day off yesterday, my body/brain felt like it was Saturday and couldn’t understand why I wanted it to go to bed at 10:00 last night. What a weird week. :/

Thanks to all of you who were so kind to send nice thoughts about my dad. He’s doing better – going to physical therapy a couple of times a week and he can now walk without the cane and his left hand is working a little better now. I don’t think he’ll ever be 100%, but he’s so lucky to be as well off as he is.

So you may have noticed my irregular posting lately (i.e. the last couple of years) and I think it’s because I just don’t know what to post. When I was writing about weight loss (or my lack thereof) it was easy – write about food, what not to eat, what I ate that I shouldn’t have eaten, what exercise I did, what exercise I didn’t do that I probably should have, weigh-ins, workouts, and whatnot… it felt easy and effortless. But now, I don’t know what to write about – I have no theme. When I wrote about self care and self esteem, it seemed as if no one was really interested in that – I heard a lot of crickets during that time in the way of feedback. And I feel like there are so many others out there who write about that stuff WAY better than I do, so I’ll just leave it up to them.

I mean, I can keep coming here once or twice a week and just opening my blog and writing whatever comes to mind, OR you can help me come up with some topics. Is there anything YOU think I should write about? Are there topics that you think “huh, I sure wish Jill would write about this, I’d love to get her take on it”? or should I just stick to plunking down my thoughts whenever the mood strikes (which apparently is only about once or twice a month). What say you? If you want to suggest a topic, my only request is that it not be political in any way, shape, or form. I do not do the political stuff AT ALL. There is so much of that out there right now by lots of folks who are more articulate than I, and really,  I just want my little corner of the internet to be a nice place to visit.

So here are a few topic ideas I’ve been rolling around in my head:

  • The Greatest Decade of Them All: The Eighties. All of my teenage years were in the 1980s so I consider myself a bit of a connoisseur when it comes to those ten years. From toys to fashion – I was there and lived it (as did most of you since my demographic seems to be women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s).
  • Bad at Makeup: Wherein I might do a video (a la the young Youtubers of today) that shows how completely inept I am when it comes to applying makeup. Seriously guys, I’m just not good at it, but it might good for a laugh.
  • Plus size fashion: I buy clothes and show them to you. Wow! So innovative and original!!!
  • Veggie of the week: I pick something from my Harvest Bag and show you how I prepared it.
  • Book Club/Podcast review: I talk about what I’m reading and/or listening to
  • Healthy Living: what I’m doing now vs what I used to do (I’m slowly but surely putting forth more effort in this category), or things I’m learning to do better, etc.
  • Stuff about marriage and parenting teens, maybe? I don’t feel like there are as many resources about how to take care of your marriage in the later years, or how to parent teens and young adults. Not that I’m an expert, but maybe it would open a dialogue here and we can learn from each other.

So what do you think? Are you interested in reading about any of these topics/all of these topics/none of these topics? If you answered “none”, then what do you suggest? Seriously, I’m open to any reasonable suggestion.

Okay wow – 747 words already! How did I do that? Anyway, please chime in below in the comments and let me know what you want to see here at the ‘Pear. I don’t want to stop writing, but I’m having terrible writers block. Help me help myself!

Maybe I just need vodka?  (source)



I want to follow you! In a non-creepy way, of course. — September 8, 2016

I want to follow you! In a non-creepy way, of course.

It occurred to me the other day that I haven’t made the effort to follow the blogs of some of my regular readers. I want to rectify that injustice! If you want me to follow your blog, or your page, or your whatever-it-is, leave me a comment below with your blog or page or whatever and I’ll add you to my Feedly, or you can email me at I want to know what you guys are thinking and feeling and doing (well that sounded creepy. Sorry!)

Anyway,  let me follow you!! Pleeeeaaaasssse????

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a blog — July 10, 2009

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a blog

I’ve been re-reading some of my old posts and it hit me today, just how far I have come. I’ve been writing this blog for almost two years now, and wow – my thinking has shifted more than I realized. I originally started this blog for accountability and for a place to just get stuff out of my head; little did I know it would transform me into a different, better person. The physical change has not been so drastic, but what’s going on inside is dramatically different.

Here’s a brief snap shot of how Jill’07 thought:

• I hate to sweat

• Exercise is torture

• I don’t want to give up my junk food

• I’m such a failure because I can’t lose 5 pounds

• I’m so fat

• I want what I want when I want it (which is right now, btw)

• I’m lonely

• I have no self esteem

• My life generally sucks

Yeah, she was real fun person to be around!! The changes have been gradual and I hadn’t even really realized some of them until I started reading the old posts and thinking about it, but here’s what Jill’09 thinks now:

I love to get a good sweat on

• My favorite time of day is when I can put on the mp3 player and zone out on my elliptical

• I’m snacking on grape tomatoes and cantaloupe and I love it!

• Too much junk food makes me ill.

• If I haven’t lost 5 pounds, it’s because what I’m currently doing isn’t working for me – NOT because I am a failure at anything.

• I’m curvy and I hold a lot of my weight in my lower half – I say that not as a criticism, it’s just a fact and no matter how thin I get, that’s how it’s always going to be. That’s how God made me and I’m fine with that.

• I still want what I want when I want it, but I know that if I keep working hard; eventually “it” will come to me (whatever it may be).

• I have a bunch of blog friends, and I’m making more friends IRL as well. If I’m feeling lonely it’s because I haven’t reached out and made the effort.

• I have waaaayyyy more self esteem and confidence now than I’ve had for the last 12 years, and weight loss has contributed only a small part to that.

• My life is actually pretty okay. God has blessed me way more than I deserve.

I’m glad I did a little reflecting today because it let me know that the small gradual changes can make a huge difference, and I’m also encouraged by the changes I have yet to make. If I keep blogging and reading your blogs and learning more about health and fitness, the changes will keep coming and they’ll be changes for the better I’m sure.

I’d like to keep going and analyze the route of my journey, but alas, I’m running out of time today to delve that deeply. I’ll have to save that for another day. I hope that as you go about your day, you’ll think about all the positive changes you have made and give yourselves a pat on the back. Celebrate yourself and the positive changes!

Happy Weekend ya’ll!

Old Mother Hupboard — January 14, 2009

Old Mother Hupboard

Before I get started with today’s post, can I just take a moment to give a big shout out to coffee?  I love coffee and it loves me.  We’re thinking of taking our relationship to the next level  – freshly ground from the whole bean.  J’adore le cafe. 

Anyway, today I am blogging from home ( I took a vacation day to take care of things like dentist appts and veterinary appts, etc).  I’ll probably be doing more of this (blogging from home that is) in the future because the microscope is increasing its magnification at work, and I don’t want to get fired for something as stupid as abusing the internet policy.  I mean if I’m going to lose my job, I would prefer a layoff as to have to admit to my friends and family that my blogging addiction got so out of hand that they had to fire me.  So if you find that I’m posting and commenting on your blogs at random times of the day – that’s why.   Just trying to keep all under control – I can quit anytime I want to, I just don’t want to.   😉 

I have to say, this cooking thing is getting easier and funner!  Last night I made the best meatloaf and it was chock full of yummy veggies and my family had no idea!  Mwahahahahah.  I felt so sneaky!!  Today I was seaching the cupboards* for something to eat for lunch when I realized that I was going to have to actually cook something if I wanted to eat.  So I thawed some chicken and sauteed it in a wee bit of olive oil along with some green onion and green pepper, then I added it to some brown rice mixed with salsa and a small dollop of sour cream.  It was goo-ood!  Tonight I am making lasagna in the slow cooker, and I have added lots of veggies to it too.   I may turn into a for really reals cook yet!

So I went to the WalMarts today and bought some protein powder.   Now what do I do with it?  I know I can make shakes, but I’m guessing ice cream is probably  not one of the ingredients in a protein shake.  So what is your favorite use for protein powder? 

The treadmill is dead.  For real.  Let’s observe a moment of silence for my friend of 8 years, shall we?



Thank you.  Since the treadmill took a header six feet under, I’ve had to break out some of the dvds.  I have also decided that Denise Austin is not my friend.  Kickboxing for Dummies however is my new BFF.  And Gilad is still my boyfriend when it comes to working my abs and other general toning parts.  I miss the treadmill though because that’s when I could just escape my little family for a while and be inside my own head and not have to worry about 4 other people and their IMMEDIATE needs.  I will most likely get another treadmill for my birthday but that’s still a couple of months away, so I’m going to have to get used to working out with four pairs of eyes watching me because I have to do something.  Not working out is not an option.

Oh, and I think I have solved my snack attack dilemna:  I’m going to have a portable snack that I can eat on the way home.  Also I have decided to eat a small snack every couple of hours instead of every four hours – we’ll see if that helps.  Mary Lou said this morning I was 2 pounds below my starting weight, so that’s a start.   I think I should have mentioned also that this week is TOM, so that had a lot to do with my angst and malaise on Monday.  Funny how those hormones can take a perfectly optimistic woman and turn her into moody, pathetic pile of goo.  Glad they’re under control now.

I should probably clean up around here a little bit before everyone gets home – just to make it look like I did something besides spend all day on the internet…not that I did that, because like I said, I can quit anytime I want to.  Really. 


*did you know that for a long time I thought cupboards was spelled cubbards?  I blame Mother Hubbard for that one.  Just a bit of trivia for ya. 

Can’t even think of a title for this post — September 23, 2008

Can’t even think of a title for this post

Go on over to MizFit (if you haven’t already) and read her post today.  Excellent post about gratitude – she’s gotten a bazillion comments already and it’s just 2:00 (CST).  Oh, and she’s got a cool giveaway to go with it.


Here’s a few things I’m grateful for: my husband, who is the love of my life; my kids; my family; my health; my job; good chocolate; coffee; shoes; and books.  There are many many things I’m grateful for, but these are the ones swirling about in my little world right now. 


What are you grateful for?




I’m going to be totally honest here; I’m running out of things to say.  Blogging doesn’t have an urgency anymore like it used to and more often than not, I find myself starting a post and then staring at the screen for several minutes wondering what I should write about.  Weight loss is going well, so there’s no angst over that, I’m having a great time finding forgotten treasures in my closet that I haven’t been able to wear in a long time, and I’m walking and exercising regularly.  I just can’t seem to make the mundane details of my life funny or interesting lately (not that they ever were before).  Still not sure if a blogging break is in order, just maybe a new passion.  Something to pique my interest is what I’m after I suppose.  Anyone else feeling this way???


September 6, 2007 — September 5, 2008

September 6, 2007

Once upon a time there was a fat mom who was tired of being fat.  She searched the internet for solutions to her fatness, and she stumbled upon something called a BLOG.  As she clicked around, she found more and more of these weight loss BLOGS.  She was attracted by the honesty and humanness of these writings.  “You mean there are others out there who struggle like I do?” she wondered.  “There are others out there who eat the last piece of cake just to get it out of her house? Someone other than me has failed Weight Watchers more than once? Other women find it hard to stick to an exercise routine too????”  She couldn’t believe it.  It was like free therapy!!   This chubby mom got brave and started leaving comments on weight loss posts, and pretty soon she decided that she needed her own blog, because her comments were sometimes a bit long and she always wanted to talk more about her experiences and thoughts about the soul-crushing torture known as weight loss. So this not-so pleasantly pump mom got herself a blog and she called it “The Sassy Pear” because she herself was a pear shape, and she considered herself to be a tad bit sassy on her best days.  She didn’t tell anyone in her real life about the blog, because honestly she didn’t think it would last very long. How can someone write about losing weight day after day?  (Ha!)


She started writing and couldn’t believe how fun it was to have a place to record her thoughts and feelings.  A place to share her joys and successes, a place to bitch and moan, a place just to think out loud and figure things out through various keystrokes. Soon, people were leaving comments on her blog, too and before long, she became friends with other bloggers.  These blogging buddies became some of her best supporters, even though they had never met face to face.  She realized that she would have given up this weight loss gig a long time ago had it not been for the women who encouraged her to never give up, ever.   

But surprise! She started to lose weight.  Through a lot of trial and error, she finally found something that worked.  So the fat mom is now the slightly-overweight-mom, and she knows that she owes a lot of that to this super great blogging community and its awesome authors. 


So on the first anniversary of her very first post in the blogosphere, this mildly pudgy mom would like to say that she is so very glad to have found this “hobby” and the people involved in it (you know who you are!!). 


Now, where’s my blog’s birthday cake?

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