The Sassy Pear

Finding my way through my forties

Bonus Post: A good quote — July 25, 2019

Bonus Post: A good quote

I don’t consider myself to be a cynic, but the notion of a soulmate has always bugged me. I just don’t believe that there is ONE person out there for everyone – I think location, time, and circumstance all contribute to who we fall in love with. So when I read this quote today from Belinda Luscombe, her definition of a soulmate is definitely something I can live with:

We don’t find soulmates, like some fantastic shell on the beach. We become them. And as we do, the other person becomes ours. One of us is the waves and the other is the sand, and together we make the beach, changing the shape and passage of the other and maybe even bringing some amazing conches to the surface alongside the seaweed and knotted fishing wire.

We become the soulmates we need for each other.

One of us is waves and the other is sand, and together we make the beach. I just love that.

You can find Belinda Luscombe’s book here.

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What’s on Jill’s Wish List? — May 30, 2019

What’s on Jill’s Wish List?

I like to peruse Amazon and add stuff to my Wish List and then check it often to see if the price has gone up or down. What I have found is that typically the price will go down on Tuesday or Wednesday and climb back up by Friday. I say that like there’s a huge difference, but really it might just be a few cents up to a few dollars, depending on the item. I thought it might be fun to list some of my wish list items here in case you are looking for some ideas to add to your own wish list. Click on the pictures for prices, etc. and as always, Amazon links are affiliate links, yada yada yada. Whatever, just click on the picture for details.

I used to get this at Walgreen’s but apparently my WG has stopped carrying it. I was so happy to find it on Amazon AND it’s $4 cheaper on the ‘Zon than it was at WG. Yay!


Remember when I said I wanted more dresses like the one in my last post? Here is another that I want. I think it looks perfect for summer, I just wonder if it’s see through or not. Somebody buy it and wear it and let me know. Thanks!


I don’t know why I want this but I do. It’s a 2 pound weighted hula hoop. I envision myself watching the evening news while I hula hoop around the living room, which is weird because I don’t even watch the evening news anymore. But I would totally hula hoop around the living room while watching Wheel of Fortune. (Bonus, there’s a $4 off coupon for this too. Someday I’ll pull the trigger and buy this thing.)


Okay this one is boring but it’s something I really need because my old not-instant thermometer finally bit the dust recently.  And it’s half off the price from when I originally added it to my wish list. I’ll probably buy this soon because I don’t like to play Russian roulette with chicken.


This one I’m going to buy in the fall, when I tend to bring foods that need to be heated up to work with me. Just pop your glass (or ceramic or cardboard) container in, zip it up, plug it in, and in by lunchtime your food is hot and ready!


Because I don’t want to kill the sea turtles, but I still enjoy sipping my lemonade through a straw. I’m really into lemonade lately, not sure what’s up with that.


I LOVE this little clock! It’s been on my wish list since 2017 and I should just go ahead and buy it already. It would look perfect on my nightstand. I adore those 2 little birds sitting on top!


And finally, a little birthstone bling. At $200 this is the most expensive thing on my list, but I’m worth it, so it stays on the list. I think it’s just so pretty and my husband might need an idea for our anniversary that is coming up this summer. Husband, if you are reading this – I LIKE THIS RING A LOT.


These are only a few of the things on my “Treat Yo’Self” list (no really, that’s what I named my list) but the other stuff is hand-lettering stuff and some boring kitchen shelving stuff and other not-fun stuff (maybe I need a separate wish list for the not-fun stuff??). What kinds of things are on your wish lists? Do you have fun stuff or do you have boring stuff? Do you even have a wish list?? If not, start one – you need to treat yourself to something nice once in a while and it’s handy to already have some things picked out. 🙂



I love a long weekend — May 28, 2019

I love a long weekend

Good Monday Tuesday morning to ya!

Prepare to feel wonky all week long – also prepare to feel like these next 4 days to feel like 8 days because that’s always the way it seems to happen after a long weekend. Why is that?

Anyway, I took the day off last Friday so that I could have a four day weekend and why can’t all weekends be four day weekends? Or at least three day weekends? Having that extra day off just feels like I get so much more accomplished AND I have extra time to relax. In my next life, I’m going to be a dentist so that my office will be closed on Fridays, then all my weekends will be 3 day weekends. Actually in my next life I’m going to come back as a cat (or Lady Violet from Downton Abbey) so that I won’t have any concept of weekends or work. I’m thankful and grateful for my job but man, I really love NOT working.



Speaking of Downton Abbey, is anyone else excited about the movie? I used to love my Sunday evenings watching DA on PBS – it was such a nice way to end the weekend. I get a little misty-eyed whenever I hear the theme song now. Anyone else? No? Okay never mind.

In other news, Shelley had mentioned the dress I was wearing in my last post – let me tell you about that dress! It is so comfy and affordable and it has POCKETS. I am thinking of getting more dresses like that because it’s just such an easy dress and perfect for summer events. Here’s the link on Amazon (click the picture – this is my affiliate link, no cost to you for clicking, but I get small commish if you buy anything after clicking my link, just fyi):

There are lots of colors and designs available. This dress is (at the time of this post) $29.99 plus there’s a 20% off coupon available when you click the box (underneath the price listing). I have 3 other dresses in this collection on my Wish List right now and I plan to add them to my wardrobe over the summer. For the fall, there is a long sleeve version that I want to check out as well. I love a good comfortable dress!

Well, time to get back to the grind. Hope you all enjoyed your Memorial Day weekend and remembered to thank a Vet and spent some time thinking about those who have passed. Here in Oklahoma, we spent a lot of time watching the weather and dodging tornadoes and praying the flood waters would recede. It’s been pretty ridiculous in this region, hope you all have been able to avoid the mess that is Spring Weather.

Amazon deals and promos — February 8, 2019

Amazon deals and promos

Since I’m an Amazon affiliate, I get emails about deals and promotions from Amazon about once a month, and I thought I’d start sharing them with you in case you see a deal that might be useful to you.

This month’s deal is of course, all about Valentine’s Day, and if you have a Special Someone in your life, or even if that Special Someone is your pet or your best friend, there are lots of different items you can give to show your appreciation, or you can appreciate yourself and buy something just for YOU. Here is a link to the Valentine’s Shop but if you don’t have time to look through them all, here are some highlights (and a few of my personal faves)! Click on the pics for more information.

No boyfriend of your own? No problem, just drop this little guy in water and he’ll grow to SIX TIMES his size! I don’t know if that means your new boyfriend will be taller than you or only as tall as your 2 year old nephew, but either way he’s all yours!!

Have a special coworker who always knows when you need an extra coffee break? Celebrate your work wife with this t-shirt to let her know how awesome she is.

Would it be wrong to eat this straight from the jar with a spoon?

How pretty is this watch? I think this is really lovely (and it’s only $35!).

Oh my gosh this is adorable!! Is your pup your BFF? Then let the world know with this necklace and collar clip on for you and your canine companion. (this is seriously a really cute idea!)

And finally, you can’t have Valentine’s Day without some chocolate. Treat Yo’Self to some of these chocolate covered strawberries or give them to your mom or your favorite blogger (hint hint) (just kidding) (no, really).

There is a lot more to see in Amazon’s Valentine’s Day shop and most of the selections are Prime – which means if you have a Prime account you can get them in just a couple of days, so you still have time!

I’ll try to do more of these deals whenever they come up, unless the majority of you tell me that you hate things like this and never want to see them again ever. But I think it’s kind of helpful for gift ideas and such. Let me know what you think!

I am an Amazon affiliate and I get a small (teensy small) commission any time you click on any Amazon link in any of my posts then make any kind of purchase an Amazon within 24 hours of clicking a link. There’s no added cost to you, but it helps me offset some of the costs of keeping this blog going. So if you click and buy – thank you! And if not, well that’s perfectly fine too, I still appreciate you. 🙂 



The Case of the Disappearing Journal by Carolyn Keene — January 17, 2019

The Case of the Disappearing Journal by Carolyn Keene

I’ve been listening to Emily P. Freeman’s podcast The Next Right Thing and in it she often mentions how at the end of a season, she likes to look back and reflect on the past few months: what went right, what could have been done differently, what to think about for that same season the following year. I really like the idea of reflection – looking back so that you can learn what to do in the future, and I’ve been thinking of ways I can do that.

About a month or so before Christmas, I was shopping in Target for gifts when I came across a lovely little notebook. It has a mint green linen cover with simple gold lettering on the front – classic and pretty. I always buy a new planner for the New Year but I rarely need a new planner because most of my days, weeks, months are roughly the same. I don’t have lots of different clients I need to see, I don’t have tons of activities to schedule, I don’t have oodles of friends requesting lunch dates…so really after I scribble in all the birthdays I need to remember I tend to let my planner gather dust in the back seat of my car for the next 11 months. And also, any appointments or kid’s activities I have to attend are in my phone’s calendar, which sends me reminders, which I need.

But still…I do love a pretty notebook.

So when I saw this Thoughtful Journal by Blue Sky in Target, I knew it would end up under the Christmas tree with my name on it…From Me, To Myself.

Merry Christmas to me!

I knew I would like this journal immediately because it said on the inside front page “Perfect for the person who is not necessarily looking for a planner, but looking for a reliable place to jot down all of their daily details” and because it has a place to reflect on the previous week as well as the previous month. A notebook for reflection?!? Perfect!

I was going to link to it in case someone else was interested in it, however, I discovered while writing this post that this journal is NOWHERE TO BE FOUND now. It’s not on Target’s website, it’s not at Amazon, it’s not listed on the Blue Sky website. I couldn’t even find a picture of it on Google! How is this possible? What is going on???

I’m really enjoying this little journal so far but what am I going to do NEXT YEAR??? I’m already distressed. And perplexed as to why this journal disappeared so fast.

Better enjoy this while I can.

I feel like Nancy Drew – like I’ve stumbled onto a mystery that is begging to be solved.  Seriously, I don’t understand why there is no evidence of this journal anywhere – did it enter witness protection? Was it going to testify against a mobster? Why is it not available anywhere? I wish I had the time and energy to solve this case. Where IS a plucky teenage detective when you need one???

Anyway, I really like this Thoughtful Journal and I wish you all could have one too but it seems I’ve bought the only one in existence. Sorry ’bout that. Next year I’ll reflect on why I didn’t buy 2 of these when I had to chance.

In any case, here are some other lovely journals if you still would like one for this shiny new year (click on the picture for more information):

The 6 Minute diary – a gratitude journal/planner in one.

Tools4Wisdom planner – for those who want to deep dive into their personal development. (I’ve used a version of this before and I liked it.)

Make (Sh)it Happen journal. I mean…I think this one speaks for itself, right? 🙂 This might be the one I buy next year.

You served your purpose well, little buddy — January 15, 2019

You served your purpose well, little buddy

I am so sad. This little guy went kaput on me:

I got him back in 2015 and he was my constant lunch companion for 3 years. I gave him some time off during the summer, but for the rest of the year I could count on him to have my lunch hot and ready every day.

And then I did the unthinkable…I went out to lunch one day at work on a Friday and I thought I had turned him off, but I accidentally left him plugged in at work over the weekend. For 3 days he work his little heart out to keep warm the lunch I would never eat. It completely zapped all his energy and now he has nothing left to give. I may or may not have behaved like this when I realized what I had done:

So let’s have a moment of silence for my Lil Lunch Buddy. Godspeed my friend, you served your purpose well.
If you would like your own little buddy (aka CrockPot Lunch Crock Deluxe) you can get one here:

Help for Back to School Woes, Alternatively Titled: Jill Goes Shopping on Amazon. — August 15, 2018

Help for Back to School Woes, Alternatively Titled: Jill Goes Shopping on Amazon.

Well, here we are. Another summer in the books and school activities already in full swing. My kids start school tomorrow but they’ve been having practices and games for weeks now, so as much as I tried to deny the month of August, I’m afraid it is here to stay. To celebrate (bemoan?) the start of a Shiny New School Year, I decided to list some things that might help ease the pain a bit. If you have a student or know of one, email this post to them, or if you’ve been out of school for awhile, feel free to keep these ideas for yourself and pretend you’ve got a clean slate going forward. (Side note: Back to School time is a great time to start again – take up that project you’ve been putting off, go buy yourself some new clothes, go to an office supply store and ooh and aah at all the nifty organizing gadgets. Make this a time for new beginnings if you wish.)

If you’re going to have a successful year, you need to get organized. If you want to really crush it and don’t like keeping your life in a phone calendar, and prefer old school planners, I’ve seen this one in a few different places on social media lately and it looks pretty good. The Panda Planner claims to be the “best daily calendar and gratitude journal to increase productivity, time management, and happiness.” Wow. That’s a pretty hefty claim. This is an undated 3-6  month calendar that lets your review your morning and evening, lists your priorities, and helps you break down your projects and goals into manageable chunks.
I think it would be super helpful if you have a lot going on and really need to drill down into certain aspects of your day – and if you wanted to spend some time really reflecting on how you use your time.

Next up, and in relation to getting organized, you might be in the market for a new desk on which to do your studying (or pretending to study, whichever the case may be). This is a desk my middle-schooler has picked out in anticipation of getting her own room when her older brother moves out of the house in a couple of months (God willing).

It’s kinda cute, isn’t it? If it were me, I’d want some drawers because I like to hoard office supplies, but if you’re going for a minimalist look, I think this would suffice. Oh, and here’s the chair she picked out to go with it:

She has this whole white-grey-rose gold aesthetic look going lately. (Sister is going to have to get herself a job to afford the lifestyle she wants, is all I’m saying.) Actually, these pieces aren’t terribly expensiveand would make a nice-looking set if you’re in the market for such things.

Here’s something I thought was very cool and handy for those mornings when you just can’t decide if you should wear that new scarf or not. The Amazon app has a feature for Prime members called Outfit Compare that lets you take a photo of 2 different looks, and send them to a fashion consultant who will tell you which look is better for you. For example, let’s say you got some cute new skinny jeans and you can’t decide if you should wear a flow-y tunic or a form fitting tank top with them…take the pics, send them through the app, and soon your fashion consultant will tell you which one looks better on you. I haven’t used this feature yet, but I think it’s a great idea because sometimes your BFF might have forgotten to charge her phone and you’re stuck in a dressing room trying to find the right suit to wear to an interview and you’ll be in that dressing room FOR-FREAKING-EVER trying to decide and you’ll be all sweaty and frustrated and you don’t understand WHY she doesn’t text you back already…Anyway, with this feature, you’ll have your answer…well I don’t know how long it takes to get an answer, but probably a lot faster than your BFF with her dead phone will take.

My high-schooler has talked about meal prepping her school lunches this year. She has declared that she is DONE with cafeteria food and wants to bring her lunch every day, so I thought about ordering this set and this set


for her to use. And who am I kidding? I would use them too because I bring my lunch to work every day anyway and I deserve nice glass wear too!! And now that I think about it, I could really use a new lunch tote (I started to say lunch box, but I’m not in 5th grade anymore and do kids bring lunch boxes anymore???) (Random bit of info: I had a Charlies Angels lunch box when I was a kid. Not a plastic one, a real metal one because that’s all we had back in the 70s/80s and we were happy to have them!!)

So let’s look for a cool lunch b…tote, shall we? (Click on the pictures for prices)

This one is kinda cool:

Oooh, I like this one:

Oh my gosh this one is adorable!!

Seriously, some of these look like handbags that I would carry instead of a carrier for a sandwich!

In the mood for something a little more groovy? Here’s ya tote!


Whoa…check this one out…this is almost too pretty for a pbj sandwich:

I think I really like that square striped tote with the flower the best. Might just have to order that for m’self.

And since I was on Amazon Back to School page, I noticed they have a deal where your teen can get their own log in, shop for what they want, and get it approved by you via text message. This means they can do their own Back to School shopping while you sit in your favorite chair, sipping your favorite beverage, and feeling so happy that you no longer have to remember the Pythagorean theorem because you are an adult who already did her time in school. Here’s where you can get more info. 

Well okay then! This turned into kind of a long post but I hope you found it helpful and maybe found something you could treat yo’self with *coughKateSpadeLunchTotecough*, even if you aren’t in school.

Just for fun: Tell me in the comments what was your favorite thing about Back to School OR tell me what kind of lunch box you had when you were a kid. 🙂


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Holiday Gift Ideas (Subtitled: Things I want that you might want, too) — November 20, 2017

Holiday Gift Ideas (Subtitled: Things I want that you might want, too)

Dear Holiday Season: WE ARE IN YOU.

With Black Friday and Cyber Monday only days away, now is the time to start thinking about what to get your loved ones, your liked ones, and your barely tolerated ones for Christmas. I love this time of year when my anxieties about money shoot through the roof! Which is why I tend to avoid Oprah’s Favorite Things because I don’t know about you, but I can’t afford to buy an $800 mattress for anyone on my list. And is that really the kind of thing you buy for someone else??? I prefer to choose my own mattress, thankyouverymuch.

Anyway, I thought I’d share some of MY favorite things…things that are totally affordable and practical. Because wouldn’t that be embarrassing if we all showed up to the Christmas Eve party with a $400 cookware set??? (Incidentally, there is a list of Oprah’s Favorite Things for Under $50 that has some pretty cool stuff on it too.)

So let’s begin, shall we?


Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance


I haven’t read this, but I think it looks fun. And it’s so preeeeetty!


And look at this cute lil fox!! Isn’t he adorable? Because sometimes you need to jot your ideas down in a cute lil notebook!
If foxes aren’t your thing, there are lots of other designs as well.


I don’t know…I just feel like this would be perfect for your 12 year old nephew or for that Millennial guy in your office whose name you drew for the Secret Santa.


I love this stuff so bad. Actually I kind of like the whole Tarte line, but this stuff is my favorite. And why not make it a set? I’ve had my eye on this Tarte eyeshadow palette for awhile now.


I canNOT STAND to wake up with mascara on my eyes, so every night before bed, I swipe my eyes with these. These would be great for Santa to put in someone’s stocking.


Oh man. THIS. This is my favorite favorite favorite body lotion. It smells like luxury and feels like rich Corinthian leather. I have the perfume that goes with this lotion and it smells divine also.



For those times when he wants a hammock but can’t find any trees:

You don’t even have to blow it up – just wave it around like you do a trash bag and it fills up with air instantly!


My 20 year old son has had a full beard since he was a senior in high school. Why it never occurred to me to get him something like this before is beyond me. (But he’ll be getting it this year for sure!)  Gotta keep that beard looking fresh for the ladies!


My BFF got these for me for my birthday and I absolutely love them! If you love Tyler candles, then you will love these thick card stock sheets that make your clothes smell beautiful, and they last quite a while.  The Glam Wash is excellent too (I was my robe and my favorite pjs in it), but it is a little pricier.


I am in love with this little clock! The cute fluffy birds, the old time-y font of the numbers, the slate gray color…this would be perfect on my night stand. (hint hint)


These are just a few ideas to get your started on your shopping.  I have a lot more ideas to add to this list, but frankly, I have run out of steam for today.  What are your go-to gift ideas? Have you started your shopping yet? Are you a Black Friday shopper or do you wait until Cyber Monday? Or are you more of the panic-at-the-last-minute shopper? I aspire to be finished by December 15th but I always seem to be shopping til December 23rd. Oh well, it all gets done eventually.


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Summer of Suspense — October 6, 2017

Summer of Suspense

I mentioned in my last post that I belong to a bookclub. The name of our book club is “We Don’t Talk About Book Club” and so by talking about book club here, I’m violating the number one rule of book club. If I seem to drop off the face of the planet anytime soon, you’ll know who to blame and you’ll know why. We take book club seriously.

Very. Seriously.

(just kidding, no we don’t. I mean yeah we love it, but sometimes wine is involved, so…)

Anyway, one of our selections earlier this summer was Ruth Ware’s In a Dark, Dark Wood.

I loved, loved this book! (And I have to tell you, my favorite thing about this book is the joke that Tara made when we selected it: “Is it cherry? Mahogany? Walnut? What kind of wood is it????”) If you love a good old fashioned whodunit, you will enjoy this book. Very Agatha Christie. There is a moment in the book where the main character is ticking off who the suspects are and their possible motives and I actually squealed with delight “YES! I freaking love this book!” The rest of the Bookclubbers loved it also, so we all agreed that our next selection should be:

The Woman in Cabin 10 also by Ruth Ware. I also really liked this one and it kept me guessing the whole time. It takes place on a smallish luxury yacht with interesting characters. I especially love the end and the way… well shoot, I can’t say anymore because I don’t want to ruin it for those of you who haven’t read it, but trust me when I say it is suspenseful and a really great read.

At this point we thought well heck, let’s just stay on a roll and finish out the summer with Ware’s final book:

This book is about 4 school friends who get in over their heads while playing…you guessed it…The Lying Game. I didn’t care for this one as much as the first two, but it was still suspenseful and it kept me entertained. Mel, another book club member, really liked it, but there was something a little darker about this one that disturbed me that I couldn’t really put my finger on. Maybe it was the setting (and old dilapidated Mill in a marsh) or just the subject matter, but I was glad to be finished with this one.

Since we ran out of Ruth Ware’s books to read, we turned to another suspense writer, Jane Harper.

I just started this one and I’m only a few chapters in, but so far so good. The story is set in Australia where a cop is called home to attend the funeral of a friend, and he sees that things are just not adding up right, so he stays to try and figure out what really happened. If I remember, I’ll come back and do an update once I finish the book.

I really loved our Summer of Suspense, but I think we might all be ready for something a little more light-hearted for awhile. Maybe a love story or a comedy. Have any good suggestions? Leave ’em in the comments below!

Happy Reading!


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Why do you have ads, Jill???? Because I have kids, that’s why. — September 15, 2017

Why do you have ads, Jill???? Because I have kids, that’s why.


Not only will you see Word Ads on my site, you will also see Amazon Affiliate Links from time to time because I have 3 teenagers and dayum, they are expensive. Mama’s got to make some extra coin somehow. (I’m thinking that middle aged women shouldn’t use “coin” like that, but whatevs. I probably shouldn’t say “whatevs” either. Oh well.)

I can’t do much about the Word Ads, but I can kinda control the Amazon ads (I think), and I promise to make these ads fun and useful.

If you don’t already know, Amazon affiliate links work like this

(please note: this tutorial is mainly for my family members who probably don’t have any idea they can do this):

when you click on an Amazon link anywhere on my site, in any blog post, it will take you to Amazon and even if you don’t buy that particular product, but you buy ANYTHING ELSE for the next 24 hours, I will get a teensy commission on that sale. So if you’re going to buy something on Amazon, why not come here first and click on a link? You’ll be helping me out and you’ll get fun stuff from Amazon delivered right to your door.

For example, in my last post I mentioned macrame plant hangers. Guess what you can buy on Amazon right now????

That’s right! You can buy a macrame plant hanger of your very own! If you click on that picture, it will take you to Amazon where can purchase as many as you like. Or you can click around Amazon and purchase something else entirely and I’ll still get a commish on whatever product you buy. Easy, right?

Oh, and for my UK and Canada readers, it works for your Amazon sites as well. My affiliate link is also active on and I have a few international readers because apparently my blathering appeals to peoples of all nations. Who knew?

I apologize if some of you don’t like seeing ads, and I hope the ads won’t be too obnoxious or distracting, but it’s either this or I go find a street corner and sell my wares there. I already have a full time job, and until someone is willing to pay me large amounts of money to read books, this will have to be my side gig for awhile.

Oh look! A link to books!

(I read this book recently and it was REALLY GOOD! Highly recommend)

Okay, sales pitch done and over. Thanks in advance if you decide to click on my links. I appreciate you!

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