Cull of the Wild


Remember my post where I was totally crabby about social media? Well I’m happy to report that I went through my Instagram and Facebook and UNFOLLOWED a bunch of people and/or pages that were messing with my zen vibe. I totally deleted Snapchat off my phone because I just find it irritating. I also deleted Pinterest because I just don’t look at it anymore – I don’t like the layout now and it doesn’t seem as intuitive as it used to when it first came out. I don’t have Twitter on my phone either because I feel sort of “meh” about it and I rarely check it. So FB and IG are the main ones that I took a fine-tooth comb to.

What a difference!!

Perusing IG is now a pleasure because my feed is now filled with baby animals, gorgeous scenery, funny webcomics, and actual people I actually know in my actual life. Facebook…will always be Facebook but I decreased the number of popular pages I follow and sought out actual people who I haven’t heard from in awhile. I think that’s the difference for me – filling my feeds with friends instead of randos who think they’re famous. Except for that one news chick who does funny posts from her car – I love her. I feel a kindred spirit with her. She made the cut.

I noticed at my local library a book on the New Release shelf that I was tempted to read but I decided to save it for another day because I was already checking out 2 other books. It was called:

Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now by Jaron Lanier.

Wow. Delete ALL social media accounts??? That is awfully tempting except who would validate all my choices and my very existence??? I’m kidding! I’m just kidding. But yeah… I wonder if I would be happier or at least more content (and probably more productive) if I didn’t automatically pull my phone out and open up a social media site whenever I have a few minutes to spare. I often wish social media had never become a “thing”, along with wishing phones had never become smart. Yes it was exciting, and cool, and innovative when smart phones first appeared on the market, but has it improved our lives enough to counter balance all the not-so-good side effects of having a mini computer in our pockets or purses all the time now? I can see myself going off on a tangent here – that’s a post for another day.

Anyway, I do feel better since I culled the nonsense from my social media. Gone are the people and posts that annoyed me, made me anxious, or made me feel bad about myself. I need to remind myself to do this at least once a year, because as I change so do my social media needs. When I first started really working on myself (my body image, my self-esteem, etc) I needed pages that were radically body positive or preached self compassion, now I find that I don’t need those messages as much so I unfollowed some of those sites (I kept a couple for good measure though). So if you haven’t gone through your social media accounts lately, I highly recommend taking a critical eye to the pages/people you follow and getting rid of any that bring you anything less than a pleasant feeling. Social media should make you want to be more social…not less.

 

 

 

 

 

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11 comments

  1. I stopped watching the news. Just could not take it. National stopped during the election. Local stopped after election. (I had been recording so I could fast forward, but then all I was doing was fast forwarding.)

    I have no social media feeds. None.

    I have a Facebook page (with nothing on it and no feeds/links) simply so I have been able to list/sell things on the marketplace all this summer (massive clean out, highly effective way of getting rid of stuff).

    I do follow a few blogs.

    I subscribe to a few podcasts. Which I love.

    I love audible books.

    I totally agree, have to pare down to what is supportive and uplifting, and also watch time.

    Very good post.

  2. I only read Facebook when I can’t sleep at night 🙂 For a while I got enthusiastic about Instagram, but its gone a little the way of FB. It does make it extremely simple to share one photograph, so I like that about IG. Your sentence about IG being filled with baby animals made me LOL.

  3. Okay, I had to go look at the news chic you mentioned. She is hilarious. She had one on there about her fake bangs, and then I watched one with old people getting out of their wheelchairs and dancing. HILARIOUS!

  4. Facebook is pretty much my only social media addiction. I don’t have Twitter or Instagram or SnapChat. I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. I have a large extended family and it’s great to be able to keep up with them. (After my mom died I always felt out of the family loop because she was the relayer of family news.) But there is so much crap on Facebook these days. Sometimes I feel like there are more ads and sponsored posts than there are actual messages from my family and friends.

    And Kirsten Hampton is hilarious!

    • Bonnie this is exactly how I feel about FB too. Sometimes it’s the only way I can keep up with extended family and I love it for that, but you are so right about the ads and sponsored posts – I can scroll and scroll and scroll and only see a handful of actual family/friends posts. I got rid of a lot of “pages” when I went through mine so that more family & friends come through.

  5. I am with you on unfollowing people – for a while, I saw so many insta posts with super fit runners, posing with their speedy times, that I felt really bad about my running. I finally unfollowed everyone and you know, I feel much better now! My insta feed is full of knitting, dogs, and funny posts – I like that I can control it, and stay in my happy little world. 🙂

    • YES. As much as I love Reese Witherspoon, I had to unfollow her on IG a couple of years ago because she and I are the same age/height and I would say things to myself like “See, if you hadn’t gained all this weight, you could wear cute little dresses like that too”. The comparison thing was bad for a while, but getting those pages out of my feed helped a lot!!

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