Socially Introverted

It seems these days, being introverted is the new black. It feels to me like identifying as an introvert is the latest fad. Do you see this happening too? Everyone claims to be an introvert now, and I wonder…is this really a fad or are we just more accepting of it, so people feel better about admitting it?

Having said that, I think I tend to lean toward the introverted side of life myself, but I think I am more of a social introvert. You would think, just by the way it sounds, a social introvert would be someone who wants to avoid all social contact, but that’s not true. A social introvert loves small gatherings but finds them draining and needs time to recharge in solitude afterward. For example, I love my book club – there are 5 of us who get together once a month to discuss our book selection at a local restaurant. I have a great time with these gals and I look forward to it every month, but at the end of each meeting I am simultaneously fulfilled and completely drained. All I want to do is go home and stare at a screen for a few hours or roll myself into a blanket burrito and nap.


I love getting together with friends or attending family gatherings, but I have to make sure I have time afterward to be alone or at least be in my own home.

I wonder though, are most people this way? I mean doesn’t everyone like to have time to rest and relax after a social gathering? Are there really people who can schedule back to back events and totally thrive on the energy and excitement? (Good gravy I’m exhausted just at the thought of that last sentence)

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I just don’t understand those people. When do they rest? How do they have that much energy? Are they shotgunning Redbulls in the car on the way to the party??? HOW DO YOU DO IT, EXTROVERT? Educate me please.

So what about you, gentle reader? Do you describe yourself as more of an introvert or an extrovert? And how do you care for and honor your -verted selves?




10 thoughts on “Socially Introverted

  1. This is SO ME. I call myself an introverted extrovert because I actively try to get out of stuff I have all the time. I just can’t do it all, so I’ve told myself it’s ok to say no. It’s better for my sanity and everyone around me if I allow myself “me” time. When I have too much scheduled in one week I panic. All this to say, I don’t feel like it’s a fad, I feel like people are just starting to realize that saying NO is okay 🙂

      1. I love the friend time and social time, but it’s me not saying no that’s exhausting!! I totally get it though, I get so much interaction at work, I’ll find myself sitting in a silent car all the way home, or just need to “stare at the wall” to decompress. It’s totally normal!

  2. I’m definitely an introvert in just the way you described it. I know its good for me to be out “amongst the people.” But time alone is also important.

    1. Even at work, I don’t mind when people are in my office, but after awhile I’m thinking “GET OUT”. I need my alone time, even when I’m working apparently! 🙂

  3. Same here! I really look forward to being alone and having my special time to be able to think. I enjoy the social gatherings once in a very while but even those must be really short and with people I enjoy spending time with. Being an introvert can be hard, especially if you are not surrounded by like minded people.

  4. I definitely qualify as an introvert but my job requires me to interact with the public. I’ve gotten pretty good at faking extroversion, but I am exhausted at the end of every work day. I can barely make myself answer the phone when I’m at home in the evening.

  5. I AM AN INTROVERT. I am totally fine spending the day alone. I love unscheduled weekends, reading a book in my bed or binge watching whatever… AND I have great friends and enjoy spending time with them… BUT I can’t hang if it gets too late. I want to go home. I get tired of talking and I definitely can’t do it back to back… I need to recharge or I become an irritable mess.

  6. Introvert. I have always been quiet & shy. It can be a handicap in this world. I have work friends, but not friends outside of work. My husband & I are best friends which do everything together. I am pretty content with it too. I really do enjoy people, but find I do not have much in common. Most I have met are extroverts.

    1. I am totally with you..I am exactly the same..I cannot talk to a friend for over 20 drains me..I abhor social get together..I dont have anything in common with my acquaintances.I like to spend time iwth my husband .And I dont understand how people look forward to get togethers and spend time talking about nothing

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