Facebook has become the candy dish of my life. And not in a good way.

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In mental health news, I deleted Facebook from my phone a few days ago. It was becoming too easy to just grab my phone and have a gander whenever I had a few moments between activities or if a commercial came on TV or if I just wanted to avoid doing something. And it was getting to the point that I was looking at FB instead of doing something like reading a book whenever I had precious spare time. Facebook had become like checking the fridge every half hour to see if some new and delicious food had appeared since the last time I looked, which was probably just a few minutes ago. It was getting ridiculous. So I deleted it off of my phone to see what would happen.

What happened is that instead of checking FB I now sit with the boredom or I actually DO something. I think I’m so used to multitasking that it feels uncomfortable to only do one thing at a time like watching TV, or eating, or waiting patiently for my daughter to get out of practice. But it also feels so GREAT when I flip through a magazine or read a book or paint my nails instead of scrolling through FB. I told Emily that scrolling through FB for me is like grabbing a handful of candy from a too-available candy dish twenty times a day – eventually, you just get sick of the candy. That’s how I feel about FB now. I need a break.

If I want to check FB at home I have to actually sit at the computer and do it. Or I can still look at it at work if I want to, but I’m trying to limit my time there too. I find I’m much more satisfied with it if I let some time pass between log-ins.

Anyone else a little too involved in social media? Did you go cold turkey or were you in too deep?

 

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6 thoughts on “Facebook has become the candy dish of my life. And not in a good way.

  1. Hi there,
    Yes, I gave up Facebook back in 2011 after I noticed how consumed I was with needing a constant feed of “know”. I had tried once before and took a break but then was right back so when I gave it up completely, it was cold turkey.
    My family (cousins who live far, older aunts and uncles) still ask me to jump back on but nope. My life has been better for it and the decision to never even start with Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and whatever else is coming down the pike has been even easier.
    People will ask me why I don’t have a FB and I answer simply and honestly with, ” I’m too insecure for that”. It usually gets a chuckle but it’s true. I feel bad when I’m not added back fast enough, when I don’t feel witty enough, annoyed when someone says something inflammatory, and spend WAAAYYY too much energy on needing to be liked by people who I will most likely never see again (um friends from Jr. High?). I also felt down about my dirty kitchen and diapers I am changing when seemingly everyone else is on a beach with that same perpetual margarita in front of them on Taco Tuesday. Ugh.
    Another funny phenom is how people who find out I don’t have a FB quickly defend having one. (I have no opinion honest!) “I have it so I can keep tabs on my kids”. Bad news, or should I say embarrassing news, travels quickly and trust me, between my mom and all the other FB users in my life, you’ll hear when your kids have done something dumb. Sadly, I have plenty of FBers still in my life who love to share the latest with a, ” I know you don’t have a FB but…(insert drama).”. I usually smile an say, ” there is a reason I don’t have one…”
    Sorry, quite the rant but I had to chime in. I feel just as informed (whether I want to be or not) and less manic without all the social media. I am even bored from where I stand with all the quips and memes that I still have to hear about except I don’t have the pressure of having to LOL anything anymore. It’s way better here, not perfect, but better.
    I don’t feel any less close to people I only get to see every few years. We just had a family reunion and I am not any less connected in fact there was no need to comment on ” i just loved your last post” or ” I saw on your FB that….”. It was interaction minus all that redundancy. So great. Anyway way more that should be left in a comment box. Sorry!

  2. Paula

    Amazing as it is, I have never had a Facebook account nor had the desire. Perhaps it is my age (53) showing. Frankly I do not have the desire to be constantly connected. The younger co-workers look in horror when I tell them I do not have an account. I love the internet & follow blogs but it even that gets boring. I would rather go out for a run then park it on the sofa reading my phone for an hour.

  3. FB is something I force myself to check at least once a day in case someone has left me an actual message, but I don’t scroll much so oh dear I miss all those photos of other people’s coffee art. On the other hand, I have a mild addiction to an app called 9gag, which is a constant stream of jokes/cute pictures of puppies/rants about what is going on in the world.

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