Feeling better

After a good night’s sleep and a great session with Emily yesterday, I am feeling much better today. I seriously think I was just exhausted and it took me a few days to get back into the normal groove of things, plus I haven’t been taking my iron supplement – that seems to help more than I realized. I kept telling myself that I *should* be bouncing back already, but my body was telling me “Um..hello? I’m worn out and need more rest!!”. One of my goals for this year is to learn to listen to my body’s physical cues and really pay attention to what it’s trying to tell me.

Speaking of goals, I’ve never really been a resolutions-type of person. Setting a hard and fast goal has just never really worked for me in the past, but just yesterday I read a couple of good alternatives to setting resolutions.  The first one is from my own personal Guidance Girl, Emily:


(Click on the image to go to Em’s FB page or here to go to her website)

I love the idea of setting an intention. An intention doesn’t feel so rigid and harsh, it just feels sort of nice and flow-y. My intention for this year is to continue learning how to care for myself and listen to my body and challenge the negative thoughts that have plagued me for many years. My intention is to be kinder to myself so I can be kinder to others.

Another idea I read about came from Carla (MizFit) in this blog post. Instead of setting a resolutions, she has 3 feelings she wants to experience in 2016: connection, comfy, and pride. In pondering my own wants, I think the feelings I want to feel more of in the next year would be acceptance, contentment, and confidence.

  • Acceptance of myself: accepting that my body is not a horrible, shameful thing to be hidden and despised but something to be cared for and nurtured and loved.
  • Contentment with the many, many blessings I have in my life right now – my family, my health, my finances – really, I have everything I need and in those times when I feel wanting, I just need to take a step back and realize that I already have it all.
  • Confidence in that I can do whatever I set my mind to. I want to feel confident that I am worthy of big adventures and big Love. I want to feel confident that my time here on earth is a blessing to others. Confident that I am okay as is.

And yet one more resolution alternative that has been floating around the internet (and has for some years now) is to give the next year a theme; one word that will describe what you want from this next year. I think my word for this year will be Transformation*. I want to be transformed from the woman who has obsessed about weight and dieting for 20 years into a woman who has too many other things going for her to worry about weight and dieting. In the four months that I’ve been working with Emily, I already feel like I have a new brain – it’s so interesting to learn about emotions and how our thoughts do not always have our best interest at heart. I want to continue learning how to think differently and act in such a way that benefits myself and others.

If you like setting resolutions and it works for you – then awesome – You Go Girl/Guy! *High Five* As I’ve always said, this is what works for me, your mileage may vary and that’s okay.

Do any of the above options resonate with you? If so, which ones and what would your intention/feelings/theme be? Or alternately, if you do set resolutions, why do you think that works for you? I’d love to hear what you have to say about it. Chime in below! 🙂

*ETA: I think I want to change my word to Kindness. I want to be kinder to myself and in turn be kinder to others. Time to stop hating on myself and be a kinder, gentler Jill. 🙂



6 thoughts on “Feeling better

  1. I don’t have resolutions exactly… more “COME ON! Get it TOGETHER”s! I keep trying, that’s the best I can do. 🙂 This year, my theme is paint. This is good for my studio, hopefully my weight as I’ll be distracted, and also a good way to not have to go out and meet people. *ahem* What?

  2. So, Jill, normally I am not big into “resolutions” because they are doomed to fail. It’s like you start out with a goal, “I’m going to do this” and then you let life get in the way, you diminish the value of your resolution and you push it aside to it’s meaningless. I hate that. I’ve always been super competitive and to start something and then “fail” at it has been a lifelong thing I have worked against, so I turn away from resolutions. That said, I am living proof that they work if you set your mind to it. Two years ago I set out to change my eating habits, to get in shape and lose weight. It was a whole lot of trial and error, but I did it. So, I think I really like the idea of picking a word for the year or three. Contentment is a big word for me. I love these two lines from Sheryl Crow’s “Soak up the sun”: It’s not having what you want, It’s wanting what you’ve got. If we can learn to be content with who we are, we can move forward in a healthy way.

  3. Excellent, Tracey! I was thinking earlier that for competitive people, resolutions are probably a great way to go. I am not competitive much at all – I just want us all to hold hands and sing Kumbayah and get along fabulously (except when it comes to trivia games and then I’m all YOU’RE GOING DOWN SUCKER!!) So for me, setting a resolution probably won’t work as well as for someone who is driven to succeed.

  4. Love, love, love this post!

    The word that comes to me is “cook.” But I don’t want that word. But it’s there. I think it’s there because I know that’s where my healing will begin…physical, mental, spiritual, and even parental.

    I had a spiritual (?) experience this past summer when I was harvesting and cooking the food I grew in my little garden. This is going to sound all woo-wooey but I felt connected to … I don’t know…the food, to nature, to the process, to gratitude. It was peaceful. And when I juice or prepare more veggies, I feel great. But, it cooking doesn’t come easy for me, and I haven’t taught my kids how to prepare healthy meals (because I’m still learning). “Convenience” foods are my go-to typically.

    I wish I was excited about cooking each meal each day for different palates. But with practice, maybe I will be and it will be easier and a way to connect with my kids and pass on something of value to them. So, “cook.”

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