Warning: graphic and icky dream ahead. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

 

The other night I had a dream that several of my top teeth fell out in one big chunk from the left side of my mouth. They fell out that way because they were all bonded together with a permanent retainer, but a couple of teeth on either side of the retainer fell out also. I picked up my teeth, but the ones not attached to the retainer kept crumbling, or I kept dropping them. As I knelt down to pick them up, there were teeth all over the floor, some of them covered in sticky blood. Somehow I knew by feeling the blood which ones were mine and which ones weren’t. I understood that the ones that weren’t mine belonged to a child and I should leave them alone in case they came back to find them (in my dream I remember being worried that the Tooth Fairy wouldn’t come visit them because they didn’t have their teeth with them). 

I remember holding the chunk of bonded teeth and then looking in the mirror and being so worried about how I looked with out 5 of my teeth – my image in the mirror looked like a side-show freak. I remember thinking that I can’t go out of the house with no teeth! Who would do that?! 

Suddenly I was at my dentist’s house (he was having a party) and I kept trying to find him, but every time I would enter a room where he was supposed to be, he would slip out just before I got there. I spent what felt like hours trying to find him so he could fix my teeth, but I never found him and then the party was over and everyone was gone. 

I remember looking at myself in the mirror again and being just terrified of having anyone see me. I think at that point I woke up. 

The dream was so vivid that even before I opened my eyes, I ran my tongue across my gums to feel the empty space and was pleasantly surprised to find all my teeth still there. That’s when I realized it was all a dream. 

I had always heard that when you dream about losing teeth, it means that you are having anxieties about money, which I am a little bit – my husband is self employed and this time of year always gets a little tight, but it’s something we’ve dealt with all of our married lives and have always been okay. 

Just to validate what I thought I already knew, I Googled “dreams of teeth falling out” and although there were several sites about this subject, the most succinct and clear explanations came from a website that offered a few different interpretations. I was surprised to learn that losing teeth in a dream can mean several things:

  •  may be rooted in your fear of being embarrassed or making a fool of yourself in some situation

  •  And the loss of teeth in your dream may be from a sense of powerlessness. Perhaps you are having difficulties expressing yourself or getting your point across. You feel frustrated when your voice is not being heard. You may be experiencing feelings of inferiority and a lack of self-confidence in some situation or relationship in your life.

  • scriptural interpretation for bad or falling teeth indicates that you are putting your faith, trust, and beliefs in what man thinks, rather than in the word of God

The one that really got my attention was this one:

One theory is that dreams about your teeth reflect your anxieties about your appearance and how others perceive you. Your teeth help to convey an image of attractiveness and play an important role in the game of flirtation, whether it is flashing those pearly white, kissing or necking. Thus, such dreams may stem from a fear of rejection, sexual impotence or the consequences of getting old. To support this notion, a dream research found that women in menopause report to have frequent dreams about teeth. This points to teeth dreams as being related to getting older and/or feeling unattractive and less feminine. Teeth are an important feature to your attractiveness and how you are presented to others. Caring about how you look is natural and healthy. (emphasis mine)

 

Ding ding ding!! I think we have a winner!! Lord knows I am hung up on how I look and what other people think of me. Call me shallow, but it’s the truth. And that scriptural interpretation ties in nicely with that, don’t you think? So yeah basically what I have learned is that I care too much what other people think of me. The hard truth is that I care too much that people will look at me and say “Goodness, she’s getting fatter every day!” I hate going to functions at my kids’ school because I’ve known the people there for years and I can just imagine them whispering to one another “poor thing just can’t control her weight – she just keeps gaining and gaining.” Of course logically I know that they most likely aren’t saying these things and I am no more than a fleeting thought to them, but emotionally I don’t always know that. 

I kept digging for some more answers, and I eventually found one that does have a ring of truth to it, from this website:

Here are 5 keys to interpreting a dream featuring teeth falling out:

  • Positive meanings: starting something new, period of growth and development (emphasis mine)

  • Negative meanings: insecurity, ambivalence, cost of inaction or compromising

  • Dreams about teeth falling indicate times of change and feeling of loss

  • Teeth falling out are symbols of a costly compromise, lack of balance in your life

  • Intensity of the emotions in the dream are a reflection of tension felt in life

I’m going to embrace that first bullet point. I’ve been doing a lot of mental or inner work for the last month and when I had this dream, I was actually having a really good week – I felt good and confident, I was eating well, and I even busted out a few yoga sessions. Maybe the dream was meant to signify that I am on the right track and I am entering a period growth. That’s the story I like best, anyway. 

I don’t think I’ve ever had this dream before. Most of my recurring dreams have to do with forgetting a final in school or watching a tornado barrel down my street while everyone stands and watches. This tooth dream was a new one for me! 

So, any thoughts on this? Have you every had a dream where you lose your teeth or any other body part? Any ideas on how I can stop being so shallow? 🙂