Thin is a wrapper

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“Thin is a wrapper. No one eats the wrapper. We admire it, but then we throw it away. We’re not wrappers, and shame on society for making it about the wrapper rather than the person.” 
 
 
Kyra said this to me in an email  the other day, and I gotta tell ya, it stuck with me. And how appropriate is it that today is also National Love Your Body Day*? Sometimes things come together for a reason I believe.
 
In full disclosure, I have been in a bad body funk for over a week and I can’t seem to shake it. I know, right?! Me! I’m usually all about the “love your body – it’s amazing  no matter what size it is!!” but lately I have been struggling with my own body image and my apparent inability to lose weight.
 
 When people see my wrapper, they see an overweight woman with hair that has a mind of it’s own. What they don’t see is (and what I need to remember about myself):
 
  • I get up 4-5 days a week an hour early and work out
  • I work 40 hours a week so that my family can have affordable health insurance
  • I cook dinner every night for my family even though it would be so much easier to get take out
  • I drive my kids to activities nearly every day even though it means sometimes putting in a 12 hour day
  • I have a great relationship with my husband
  • I have friends who I can count on to be there with a kind word or a hug whenever I need it (and I love returning the favor)
  • I am so much more than my wrapper

I think the first step to seeing past our own wrapper, is to focus on what we do right. Also it helps if we take care of ourselves – too much sugar can make me crazy and I know this, yet I feel the need to test the theory regularly (learn the lesson already!).  I’ve also decided to stay away from the scale for awhile and focus on the things I can control: how much water I drink, the kinds of food that I eat, the amount of exercise I’m willing to do. The number on the scale has nothing to do with anything but the wrapper, and I need to take the focus off my wrapper for awhile. I need to stop obsessing about the size of my thighs and start thinking about increasing the size of my character.

It’s what we do that matters, not what we weigh. (Note to self: tattoo this on your forehead so that every time you look in the mirror, you’ll see it. Of course you’ll have to have it tattooed backwards, but whatever. Just do it.)

I encourage you to go the Love Your Body website and click around. There is some empowering information there that we can all use.

*thanks to Vicki for the tip off about this- I didn’t even know it was a thing!
 
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12 thoughts on “Thin is a wrapper

  1. What a great friend you have – she’s totally right! We all struggle with the parts of our bodies we don’t like (trust me, I could point out 5 places that make me wish there was such a thing as spot reducing), and while it’s so easy to feel bad about what we don’t like, we have to focus on the good – what we have accomplished, our strength, the best parts of the people we are. And remember, we are always our own harshest critics!!

  2. One of my favorite things about this day is everyone has a slightly different take on the concept. And from year to year, our perspective changes. Good post.

  3. cookie

    I don’t have children (well, I guess my lazy boyfriend doesn’t count, right?) and I have a lot less responsibilities than you and I feel like it’s too much (yeah, I’m a wuss). You (and Kyra) are awesome in every way!

  4. dsbride

    This is one of the best posts I have read in a long time!! It made me feel good on a day that was not going too well. Yes, I too am much more than a wrapper!!

  5. What about when you are not so happy about your insides either? I won’t beat myself up here by listing all my perceived failings, but sometimes I think the wrapper is the best part.

    Sorry, I really shouldn’t comment when it is TTOM.

    • (Hug)
      I think most of us have perceived failings. That makes listing the good things inside that much more important. They are there.

      “Sorry, I really shouldn’t comment when it is TTOM.” — LOL

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