Even before school started mid-August, school activities have kept my family busy. For the last 2+ months it’s been GO!GO!GO! all the time and frankly, I’m sick of it. And it’s not only school activities, it’s also been extended family activities as well – all good things to be sure, but it seems like there is always something on the calendar. For the last several days I’ve felt the overwhelming urge (read: had several temper tantrums) to just check out and stay home and do home stuff. At home.
In case you missed it, I’m a homebody. I like to be HOME. And when I have to be away from home too much, I get discombobulated. And cranky.
Yesterday after work I had to go to the school to pick up my son, take him home, and then get my daughter so we could go to cheer practice (back at the school). There was about an hour gap between when I got home and when we needed to leave again. It was a gray chilly cloudy day and being in my warm home just felt right. So when my daughter came to me and said “Mom, I don’t feel like going to cheer. Can we please just skip it for today?’ let me tell you, it didn’t take much arm-twisting to get me to say “Yes. YES WE WILL STAY HOME!”
Sometimes you just gotta say “screw it”.
I put on my comfiest clothes, I took a nap, I cooked a real dinner (as opposed to hastily throwing something together), I did load of laundry (it’s surprising how satisfying this can be when you find you haven’t had time to do it in a while), and then after dinner, the hubs and I sat on the patio next to a warm fire and talked about nothing and everything. You cannot imagine how gratifying it was to do that. Staying home was the right thing to do in every way possible.
We still have several more weeks of activities, and you can be sure that when things start to feel too frenetic for me, I will check out. It won’t bother me a bit to say no to an activity or a practice or a meeting if it means the difference between serene-me and the me who freaks out when she can’t find her keys (true story).
Sometimes taking care of our mental health is more important than anything else. If you need permission to check out for a little while, then I’m giving it to you right now. Stay home, do your nails, pick up your living room, do a load of towels, go for a run, whatever it is that you need to do to get yourself a little more balanced, do it. Give yourself a break before you break. You deserve it.