Fake Monkey

Today’s title is for Shelley. Apparently she has a thing for monkeys. Here’s a monkey picture for you, Shelley:

oops, wrong monkeys, but still groovy and outa site.

Let’s try it again:

Disapproving Monkey disapproves of Fake Monkees.

Okay, enough of that monkey business! (you knew that was coming, right?)

Let’s talk about weight loss or the lack thereof.  I want to know of those of you who have lost weight or are in the process of losing weight, how much of your success was based on making the decision to change? Did you just decide one day that enough was enough and you were going to do this no matter what? And how did you keep yourself accountable to that decision? I have, more than once, made the decision to get going on my weight loss, but then life always seems to get in the way and I make excuses as to why I need a break, then I get frustrated with myself because I’m not making progress. Consistency is something I have always struggled with when it comes to losing weight and I think it is the biggest obstacle I have to get over. Is it really as simple as just deciding to do it and then…doing it every day?

Please think about this and let me know your thoughts in the comments, even you lurkers – I want to hear from you! I need some inspiration on how you tackle the tough stuff in life but keep going with your weight loss anyway!


9 thoughts on “Fake Monkey

  1. *Grinning from ear to ear right now*
    Monkees! Monkey! LOVE IT!

    To answer your question, for me, it was at first changing because I was sick and tired of being overweight. The decision to STAY changed came later, when I discovered that I liked being smaller and seeing all that I could do, physically. I really have changed how I eat, and don’t look at eating anything “off plan” as giving myself a break…if I really want something, I have it. For example, on Saturday I bought a cinnamon twist and split it with Jeff, to have along with our breakfast bagels (which I just now realized I didn’t acknowledge in my post today – oh well, good thing I’m not a food blogger, right?). I don’t look at having an indulgence as ruining my diet for the day/week/month anymore, and I think that helps my brain not get so tangled up in the “might as well eat this, TOO” thing.

    Disclaimer: My year of coconut M&M’s notwithstanding, of course. 😉

  2. My biggest weight loss success came from the decision to have fun and be happy. No joke. I think most of my weight issues stem from general unhappiness and boredom. I started taking martial arts, which I LOVE. It was more than a workout. It changed me on the inside. I didn’t struggle to lose weight. The better I felt about myself, the better I started to look, and the healthier I became. I need to try to get back to that.

  3. My biggest weight loss inspiration was ANGER! I went to the Dr and he tore into me about being overweight and having all my blood test results off because of it. This has been going on my whole life, always blaming my weight for anything that goes wrong. This last time I said that’s enough! I’m going to lose once and for all and get people off my case to leave me alone. Every time I go to put something in my mouth, I remember the Dr incident and it’s carried me thru.

  4. I’m not expert but I think when someone deals with binge eating its going to take some extra motivation to get through the rought patches. Maybe it was easier with me to deal with my unhealthy relationship with food because its just me and my husband. If I COULDN’T have a food in the house, then we didn’t. It wasn’t like ‘Oh, I have to have snacks around for the kids’…or whatever. So, I just want to acknowledge that it can be very very difficult. And that is OK.

    But personally, with my weight loss, I didn’t set a weight loss by week or by month. I just set a general weight loss goal and didn’t give myself a time limit to reach it. I did something every day (or tried to, I had moments of doing nothing), at least for 15 minutes, walking…or doing a video at home. Because it might not have been much but it was more than I did before…which was nothing. And when I did check my weight I didn’t set a number in my head that it had to be in order for me to be happy. As long as it either stayed the same or went down, even an ounce, was enough for me to do a happy jig. Otherwise, anything other than gaining was a WIN. Anything other than sitting on my butt all day was a WIN. Anytime I had only two cookies instead of a sleeve, was a WIN.

    I think you need to re-adjust your expectations. If you set yourself up to go to the gym and run every day for 45 minutes, but one day you don’t feel like it…go walking for 10 minutes instead. It is better than nothing. If you are having a craving for sweets. Have a cookie or two and then walk away (that might be hard for you, I understand). Celebrate every weight loss, any little bit of it. If you get on the scale and you have lost an ounce instead of a pound…you need to do a touchdown dance right there in the bathroom. Ok? Because its better than yesterday. Its just one step at a time, one day at a time.

    1. “Otherwise, anything other than gaining was a WIN. Anything other than sitting on my butt all day was a WIN. Anytime I had only two cookies instead of a sleeve, was a WIN.” – I love this so much you don’t even know. My all or nothing personality has a hard time putting this into practice, but I’m working on it. 🙂

  5. This is what I’m learning in OA. That compulsive over eating is a progressive disease. That you can make up your mind a thousand times to be good, and one thought of a cookie (or whatever) can suddenly turn into a binge and you don’t even know how it happened.

    Not everyone is a compulsive over eater or addict. Many people can have one or two and walk away. Many can make up their minds to just do it, and they do. But…. Some of us, like me, have a disease. No amount of making up my mind will ever fix me or make me better.

    I am not in any way saying this is your or anyone else’s issue too. Just giving my experience.

    Keep posting! I have book marked you in my phone and subscribed so hopefully I can keep up with you better.

  6. I definitely did not make a DECISION to change. It was a gradual process. I committed to going to W.W. with a friend. I had very little hope that I would stick to it. I think that the commitment to a friend, and the whole accountability thing was huge. A little bit of my competitiveness kicked in. Honestly, most of the time I think it was a blooming’ miracle that I lost any weight and kept it off for any length of time.

    Even now, when I am struggling, my commitment to eating healthy food and exercising regularly is probably key to any chance of maintaining.

  7. I know we’ve been talking about this, and I’ve had more thoughts on it. I think it’s about more than weight. I think it’s about deciding about the type of person we want to be. Do I want to be an angry person? No, I want to be a happy person and that means forcefully choosing to let some things go that irritate the heck out of me and make me want to chase down and beat into submission – because that would be a lot of energy spent on being negative, and I don’t want to be a negative person. I want to be a healthy person, and that decision is multi-layered. I think it’s one where we have to ask ourselves constantly at first if this fits with my wanting to be a healthy person? Eventually, things will get easier, and maybe it’s a battle of our own choices at first and then a mental maintenance. I don’t know… i’m still working on this one.

  8. I think for me it is about deciding that I’m not going to quit. The first time I lost a lot of weight I was about 21, I lost 60 lbs and kept it off for ten years. I’d been on plenty of diets before, and looking back on those experiences I knew that any of them would have worked if I just hadn’t quit. So I just didn’t give myself permission to give up. Every time I fell down, I just got back up. I thought I had it all figured out–just keep doing what I’m doing and I will always be in good shape.

    Then after about ten years, I started having problems because I was becoming hypothyroid. It was about 3 years before that was diagnosed. At first, I could keep the weight gain at bay by just dieting and exercising harder, then I started losing my strength until finally I could barely walk up a flight of stairs. I had to lean against the wall and pull myself up the railing with my arms. I also became severely depressed, partly because that’s a symptom but also because I didn’t have any control over what was happening to me. I gained all the weight I lost back.

    It’s taken me almost ten years to get up the courage to try again. I started almost a year ago with Weight Watchers and I’ve lost 50 pounds so far. I’ve had to ditch the idea that I can always control my body as long as I stick to a plan. The only thing I know is that I can lose weight now, I can’t know if I will always be able to keep it off. I am just going to do the best I can for as long as I can.


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