Believe it

Let’s play a little game today. Trust me it’s fun as well as enlightening!

First a question: What do you believe is holding you back from achieving your goals or getting the results you want?

Do you have your answer? Take a moment to think about it if you like, I’ll wait…

Got it? Good.

(For me,  I don’t really, honestly, truly, deep down in my believer, believe that I can lose this weight. Which is sad, but I really think this is it.)

Second, imagine flipping that around and saying “I DO believe I can lose this extra weight” (or you can say the opposite of whatever your answer is).

Now, here’s the cool part…think about how you would FEEL if you did believe the flipped-around version of your answer. Close your eyes and really focus on the emotions you would have if you truly believed it. What would those emotions be?  And what would the resulting actions be?

For example, how would I feel if I KNEW I could lose this extra weight?  How would that impact my actions?

If I believed (and I mean 100% believed) I could lose this weight, I would feel like nothing could stop me. I wouldn’t question whether or not I could consistently exercise or consistently make healthy choices when eating, I would just do it. I would always have my goal in the back of my mind influencing my decisions and it would be rather simple to make the best possible choice in the moment.

So maybe instead of relying on my actions to get me to my goal, I should instead rely on BELIEVING I can do it which will in turn lead to the actions needed to make that goal a reality.

I’ve been doing this backwards for 16 years. Most of you probably have been doing it backwards too. It’s time to take a different approach, don’t you think?

Edited to add: I wrote this post last week and since then, I have been focusing on BELIEVING I can lose the weight and have peace with food. I’ve using some techniques (that I’ll post about later) to help cement this belief in my head, and you know what? IT’S WORKING. I’m starting to truly believe that I CAN do it, and as a result I’ve been eating better and working out has more meaning – and it’s not such a struggle to do either one. This whole idea elaborates on what my guest poster was talking about in this post. 

Did you do this exercise? And if you did, what emotions came up for you? If you want to share, feel free in the comments. Also, anyone else have Journey’s Don’t Stop Believing stuck in their head after reading this? 😉

7 thoughts on “Believe it

  1. I had my WW weigh in this morning and I lost 0.4 kg (about a pound) even though I had a “bad” week with four days away and nine restaurant meals. The loss made me feel really empowered and like I could continue to lose weight — so while grocery shopping I bought lots of healthy food and had a healthy lunch. When I have a gain it is discouraging and more likely to make me eat badly, which is a self-perpetuating cycle. So believing I can certainly has an effect on whether I do.
    I think my barrier is the same as yours — consistently believing that I can do it. Years of failure does that to you.

    1. Yep. I’m right there with you Natalie. Not sure how to keep that believing going, but I’m going to find out if it kills me!! 🙂

  2. I don’t have Journey in my head, buy I have Jim Carrey’s “I Believe I Can Fly” elevator scene in my head

    You and Kyra have great posts about believing. I did this exercise last night before sleeping. It was great and helped me feel more peaceful.

    I think a key word is “exercise” — that this was an exercise in believing. Exercise is not a one-time event (regardless of what you see — or don’t see — me doing at my own house); we do it over and over and get better at what we are doing. This believing “exercise” will take practice, too.

  3. I LOVE that movie! That whole movie makes me laugh!! And now I have that song stuck in my head. Thanks. 😉

    I try to remember to say a few positive thoughts every morning in the shower – sometimes I forget, but I think the more you say it, the more you believe it and the more you will remember to say it. Which leads to more believing. And more saying. You get the picture. 🙂

  4. Hmmm…it’s not working because I don’t want it bad enough. It’s about 5-6 or lower on my priority list. Since I realized that, I have been telling myself that I have to be satisfied with what I have because this is the amount of energy I’m willing to put into it. But if I decide that it’s a higher priority – I have to think about this some more.

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