Hey guys! Remember when I talked about the BED ebook I was going through? Well the author of that ebook, Stefanie Nielsen, has agreed to do a guest post which touches on the core of her coaching program. This has been very helpful to me and I thought it might be for some of you as well, so enjoy!
You’ve had a bad day with food! Okay… maybe it’s been a bad two weeks or two months. And you’ve started feeling frustrated and you’re ready for a change.
I’ve been there and these are thoughts that would go through my mind:
- “Tomorrow will be different”.
- “I just need the right diet plan to get started.”
- “I just need to have more will power.”
- “I’ll start doing these right ‘tomorrow’ morning.”
But what happens when tomorrow comes?
More often than not, it’s not perfect. You ‘screw’ up and ‘tomorrow’ is put off until ‘tomorrow’ again.
Overcoming binge eating, emotional eating, compulsive overeating, and other eating patterns is more than just ‘willing’ yourself to stop. It’s a process that is physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.
When you focus on only the physical aspect (diet, exercise, and what your body looks like) you end up cycling back and forth between being ‘on the wagon’ and ‘falling off’. It creates the battle within yourself of being ‘good’ or being ‘bad’. It becomes an endless cycle of self judgement and criticism that fuels overeating and in turn restricting.
You may be thinking, “Well if a diet and exercise program aren’t going to ‘fix me’ – then what is?! I need to stop this NOW.”
The truth is that YOU’RE NOT BROKEN – you never were and you don’t need to be ‘fixed’.
We’ve all been taught that actions get results right? That is why when we need to make a change we focus on our actions.
While actions do create results… have you ever stopped to think about what creates your actions?
- What makes you want to eating everything in sight when you’re stressed?
- Why can’t you seem to stop eating even after you’re full?
- Why do you continually do things even though your inner voice is begging you not to?
Beneath the level of action are your emotions, thoughts, and beliefs. If you were building a house, it would go something like this…
- Your THOUGHTS and BELIEFS are your FOUNDATION.
- Your EMOTIONS are your WALLS.
- And your ROOF is your ACTIONS.
- All these culminate into the structure of your ‘house’ or your RESULTS.
You cannot build a house that will withstand the storms of life without a proper foundation. The foundation is where you start if you want to create lasting changes in ANY area of your life.
Change must come at the level of your beliefs and thoughts in order for your emotions, actions, and results to shift.
If you are ready to create this shift in your own life; be sure to get signed up for the FREE CALLS that will be happening on Tuesday May 15th 2012.
Stefanie Nielsen is no stranger to emotional eating, depression, poor self-image, negative self-talk, and binge eating. She has experienced them all and has found her way to the ‘other side’. She has shifted her life into one of discovery, strength, and clarity. Stefanie is also a S.W.A.T. Certified Personal Empowerment Coach.
Have questions or comments for Stefanie? Leave them in the comments or email me and I’ll make sure she gets them!