Upcoming stress

I’ve got activities coming up in the next couple of weeks that  tend to put my stress level on high alert, so I hope that by getting them out into the open here, I won’t be so prone to eating it all away.

My 14 year old son  is leaving for a band trip on Thursday. They leave on a bus at midnight Thursday and will return at 3am on Sunday morning. I don’t like it when my chicks are out of the nest. Makes me nervous and I worry the whole time. Thankfully he’ll have his phone with him, so I can text him 395720o957 times a day, just to make sure he’s okay. This is the first time he’s been on any kind of trip like this, and I know he’ll have a blast, but I won’t relax until he’s back home safe and sound.

The first week of May (holy monkey that’s next week!) is going to be super busy and I’m already dreading it, even though it will be filled with fun stuff. Here’s what’s going on:

Monday – son has ortho appointment (rescheduled because I totally blanked on the one that was supposed to be last Tuesday. Mother of the Year award is mine for sure.)

Tuesday – whole family has dental appointments. It’s easier to do all 5 of us at once than to have make multiple trips to dentist office.

Wednesday – daughter has girl scouts – she has that every week, so that’s really not a big deal

Thursday – Youngest daughter’s birthday, also Son has a band concert that night. Not sure how we’re going to deal with that.

Friday/Saturday- Couples’ fishing tournament. I really wanted to do this one, but I imagine that we will have to do Youngest’s birthday on Saturday. I think in order to save my sanity, I’m going to have to skip this tourney, although the hubs can still fish without me. Yes, for some reason they will allow only one half of the couple to fish.

Sunday – Mother’s Day. Hubs will be gone for a different fishing tournament, so will probably spend the day with my mom.

I don’t do well with having lots of activities crammed altogether within a few days like that. I like my chaos spread out a bit. Plus, I always want the kids’ birthdays to feel special so I tend to put extra pressure on myself to make it a good day for them.

(And no, in case you are wondering, I’m not upset that the hubs will be fishing on Mother’s Day. In the past it would have really bothered me, but since I’ve stopped relying on him for ALL my happiness, things like this don’t upset me. Let me clarify that because I made it sound like he’s unreliable – in the past, I wanted him to make days like this SuperExtraSpecial!!! I had such high expectations, but of course I didn’t tell him that, I just wanted him to read my mind.  So you can see where there would be some disappointment and hurt feelings. A couple of years ago on my birthday, I decided to just spend the day doing whatever I wanted by myself and it was one of the best days I’ve ever had. Realizing I could make my own SuperExtraSpecial days, meant letting him off the hook (mostly). Him being gone on Mother’s Day isn’t a big deal to me because 1) I know he’ll make it up to me,  and 2) I’ll get to spend it with my mom and my kids. So it’s all good.)

Okay, getting all that out there where I can see it does help. But now I’ve got to jam in order to figure out a birthday party for the almost 6 year old! For some reason I thought I had a couple of weeks, but I guess not.

Definitely a shoo-in for Mother of the Year. Definitely.

5 thoughts on “Upcoming stress

  1. I don’t do well with chaos schedules, either. My anxiety sky-rockets, even if it’s for normal stuff and fun stuff — my mind spins, I can’t think, sometimes I feel I can’t breath, my temper shortens, and I want everyone to go away. Deep down, I really don’t want everyone to go away, just the demands. And I just used to eat and eat and eat.

    I signed my 11 year old son (oldest child) for a week-long summer camp in June. This is his first time away from home. I have mixed feelings: the worry vs I know it will be good for him as long as no one molests him or kidnaps him or he gets injured or food poisoned or bitten by some diseased animal or lost or … (I’m not helping, am I?)


    I think you are awesome for making your own ExtraSpecialDays.

    One of my happy places is my bed. It’s been like that since I was a kid. When I was having a stressful day, I thought to myself, “Tonight I’ll be in my comfy bed with my cool sheets, cozy blanket, and nestling pillow.” Do you have a happy place you can mentally go to in the middle of it all?

    You are a great mother.

  2. Another post??? I just came upon it by mistake.

    Yikes, that is a schedule and a half. Hows about a birthday party on the fishing boat? JK. Sounds like you have it under control. And I love that you make your own ExtraSpecialDays.

  3. Holy cow, I hate weeks like that. And they just make life feel like it is going by so stinking fast, don’t they? I hope your 14 year old has a good, responsible time at camp. I am so not ready for the teen years!

    I agree that lowered expectations are not a bad thing at all. I threw my own 40th birthday party because I didn’t want to not have a party & I didn’t want to be disappointed when no one threw one for me. But other than that, I’m pretty laid back about special events, too. Thankfully Mark has gotten a lot better about making things special for me, which is awesome.

    I wonder what we do to our kids when we make extra super special deals about their birthdays? Are we setting them up for the same thing we set ourselves up for? I only ask because I do the same thing–we always have BIG birthday parties for the kids. Last year Luke had like 40 kids at his party! Which was fine when we were in the big inflatable room, but when we all crammed into the cake room, it was insane. I didn’t want to leave any of his friends out. But it was so over the top, I couldn’t believe it (honestly I didn’t think everyone we invited would come, but like 80% of them did). We won’t do that again. Sophie’s birthdays have always been big events, too. She wants a big party (boys & girls, at the zoo) for her 10th, then I think we might cut it down to just a friend or two. Maybe. It may just be too late & I’ll be on the spectacular birthday hook for the rest of their lives. 🙂

    Do everything you can this weekend to gear up and prepare for next week. Then just roll with it and hang on. And I’m here if you need to text to vent or celebrate. love ya!

  4. having a hectic schedule seems to keep me motivated. otherwise, i get so bored! lol sounds like a busy week for you, so take it a day at a time and best of luck!

    as for mother’s day.. i used to be that way too. high expectations. now it’s just another day really, with maybe a card and a kiss. it’s all good, because i know i’m loved year ’round!

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