Crossroads: Population, me.

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Today’s weight 161.  Ugh. You’re killing me, Smalls!

So I was reading Debby’s latest post in which she slaps me around made me realize that if I want change, then I have to DO change (okay that made no sense grammatically, but you know what I mean).  And here is what she said that shook me up:

Unless you are willing to accept that you are going to have to do SOMETHING ELSE.  What you are doing now is not working.  You will have to do something else.  And you will have to do something else for the rest of your life.  That’s a big order.  For some, a bitter pill to swallow.  But you know, sometimes a bitter pill is the only cure available.

If you read her comments you will see that I said what I’m about to say here (in fact I just copied and pasted most of my comment), and that is that I am at this point right now. I know I need to change what I have been doing, but change is scary and I typically avoid things that scare me, like mass murderers and Walmart on a Saturday. There is a part of the iChange thing I’m doing that says to purge your pantry of all the junk – this has had me paralyzed for 3 days, and I’m not sure why. I KNOW intellectually that this is a big step toward success, but emotionally it’s probably the hardest part. Since I have 4 other people to consider in my household, I am scared of confronting them with the idea of telling them “all that cereal, those snacks, those crackers, your cookies, all that stuff you love? Yeah well it’s gotta go!” I am so afraid of the backlash that might ensue – I don’t want to deal with the complaints and whining etc that I’m sure will follow, and yet I know it’s the right thing to do. 

So here I am, at this crossroads where I can do what I know will get my family and I healthy, or I can just stay on the same old path I’ve been on, staying at the same weight, in the same shape for the rest of my life.

I NO LIKEY CHANGE!!!!!!

So how do I confront the fam? How do I get over the fear of change? And what’s your favorite scene from The Sandlot? And if you’ve never seen The Sandlot, what’s wrong with you? Seriously, if you’ve never seen it, please go rent it this weekend – and then report back to me and tell me what your favorite scene is.  🙂

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6 thoughts on “Crossroads: Population, me.

  1. debby

    Okay. First things first. Thanks for reminding me of why The Sandlot is such a great movie. Gonna add it to Netflix right now. I actually had it on VHS, but now no tv or vcr. ANYWAY, I watched the clip about ‘the Great Bambino’ LOVE the line ‘you keep talking about Babe Ruth–who IS she anyway?’ Oh, that is me in so many ways, esp. when it comes to sports.

    Now for the serious stuff. Good. I am glad you are going to take the next step. But one thing to consider is this: just because they told you to do it (and it might be the BEST thing) does not mean you HAVE to do it. (You are not the boss of me.) How about clearing out SOME of the snacks? I didn’t get rid of everything at once. In fact, I still haven’t gotten rid of everything. Sometimes I buy candy because it is on sale, or it looked good, or somebody gave it to me. But I don’t want to eat it really, so I stick it in the back of the cupboard where I don’t see it every day. I can’t quite make myself throw it out. Eventually, I usually give in and have one more piece, realize I really don’t want it, and then throw it out. Not as good as just throwing it out in the first place, but okay. Sometimes I think this is part of the healing process. Or strengthening process. Or maybe its a bad thing.

    I think with your family, you have to keep firmly in mind that changing their diet to healthier choices is the most loving, kind thing that you can do. If your son was a drug addict, he would probably do more than whine and complain, but you wouldn’t go out and get him the drugs, would you?

    I would just do for them the same as what you will do for yourself. Small changes, replacing the ‘bad’ snack foods with really good tasting healthy foods. (Have you served them the apple/laughing cow/walnut combo? Even my sister liked that one.) Eventually, they will come to like them as much as you do. And just think,when they are your age, maybe eating healthily will come naturally to them.

    Okay. Sermon ended. Love, the opinionated single-person.

    • Thanks Debs – I tend to think in an all-or-nothing fashion, so I think I needed to hear “slow down”! The more I think about, the more I like the idea of replacing the bad stuff with better stuff (white crackers with whole grain crackers, etc). The fact that my pantry is nearly bare because it is time to go to the store again is making it easier to just NOT BUY the bad stuff. I’m going grocery shopping tonight, so I can load up on lots of produce and fruit and generally good stuff.

      I have not given them the apple/cheese thing yet – will probably do that tonight. Gotta get some more apples, though!

      Okay, I feel a bit better now. Thanks! 🙂

  2. I second what Deb writes – it’s not about all-or-nothing. In fact, all-or-nothing is often what gets us screwed in the first place. Baby steps, slowly slowly tends to work better.

    Good luck Jill. We’re all in this together you know!

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