Ulterior Motives

I ran across this while doing a web search for “body acceptance”.  I’m not sure how I feel about this article.  On the one hand, it promotes body acceptance and explains that loving our bodies unconditionally is beneficial to a happier existence.  But all of that is wrapped up with in the confines of losing weight.  It is written by Jorge Cruise, who has several diet and exercise books on the market, so of course I expect someone like him to write about weight loss.  But my problem with this article is why does it have to even mention weight loss?  Why can’t it just be about accepting ourselves, as we are, today? The article gives lots of good reasons and tips on doing things to help you take care of your body, but what really bugs me is that it also represents the exact thing I am fighting myself with lately:  I don’t want to lose weight under the guise of body acceptance.  I don’t want losing weight to be the reason for wanting to love my body.  I want to love my body and IF I happen to lose a few pounds along the way, fine, great, but if I don’t, am I suddenly going to turn against myself and start the hating all over again?  I know how well that has worked in the past (that was sarcasm there) and I’m sorry, but I don’t want to go there again.  I guess what I am really trying to say  is that if you are loving body in the hopes that it will lead to lost inches, that isn’t really loving your body, because you WANT it to change, because if you really loved and accepted your body for all the wonderful things it can do for you, you wouldn’t care one way or the other if you lost or gained weight, right?  It’s like someone telling you “don’t think of a tree”, then all you can think about it the tree!  If someone says, you must first love your body before you can lose weight, all I am going to think about is losing weight,  as in, “I haven’t lost any weight, therefore I must not love myself enough”.  Sounds a lot like, “if I just had more willpower I wouldn’t eat a chocolate chip cookie,” doesn’t it?  It starts leading me down a scary crazy road named Points Place.  Am I reading too much into it?  I don’t know, but I am going to be very careful in how I use IE and body acceptance from now on.  Hmm, I guess I do know how I feel about this article after all.

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