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Monthly Archives: April 2012

Good morning!

I hope you all are having a good week. The ovulation/appetite wave seems to have finally passed and I’m eating normally again, thank goodness. I’m glad I thought to look that up otherwise I would have been bashing my sweet self for eating way too much for 2 days, which really does nobody any good, amiright?

Something I’ve been meaning to mention is that I’m on Daily Mile, so if you are on DM also and want to be my friend, you can find me at http://www.dailymile.com/people/JillA15#ref=tophd. I have sort of taken the off from running this week, so I don’t have a lot of activity to show for this week. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do for your body is SLEEP and I’ve been trying to do more of that this week. I feel better, so I think I made the right decision. I’ll get back on the treadmill starting Monday. Pinky swear.

I mentioned a couple of weeks ago about some online programs I was doing in relation to binge eating disorder. As I said before, I haven’t been diagnosed with BED and I don’t know if that’s really even what I have, but I am finding the treatment for it very helpful. I wanted to wait until I went through each program before I let you all know what they were in case they didn’t work out. I’m happy to report that I was please with both programs and am now ready to share them with you.

The first program I went through is at http://bingeeatinghelponline.com/.  Chrissy Cee has created a 12 day program to help you get started with your weight loss, and she has also come out with an ebook as well.  This program uses a lot of confidence-building techniques – in the 12 day program, you get a video and a worksheet every day for 12 days that gives you a lesson to complete for that day – it’s short and sweet and doesn’t take a lot of time, but it keeps you on track for almost 2 weeks, which is what I really liked. The ebook has you write a few sentences every day for 30 days – also quite effective.  The 12 day program is $40 (with a 30day money back guarantee), plus you get several bonuses, and the ebook is just $7.  I printed out all the materials and put them in a binder and found it really helpful to look through the binder every day to help me stay on track.

The second course I took (and just finished yesterday) can be found at overcome-binge-eating.com and you can find the specific ebook here. The ebook is $24 plus you get an audio workshop and workbook that complements the ebook. The author of the site and the ebook is Stefanie Nielsen and her site is loaded with information on how to tackle binge eating plus she has a ton of Youtube videos where she does a Q & A once a week. I think I would characterize her method of fighting binge eating as “brain training”.  Haven’t we all said at one time or another that weight loss is such a mental thing, so doesn’t it make sense to start with the mind? I’ll probably do a whole post about this later because I really feel enlightened by this process.

I really enjoyed both programs and feel that I learned something from each one. I think either one of them is a great starting point in this journey and definitely put me in the right direction. I felt that they were both affordable considering what you have to pay for private counseling these days, and it was definitely worth my time and money. I am starting to realize some things about myself that I thought I could not control, I absolutely can  control and turn around. Like I said, I’ll probably do whole ‘nother post about this soon (oooooh the suspense!!).

In other news, I was contacted by Everyday Health and asked if I would feature one of their videos from their Youtube channel. When EH mentioned that the video featured Joy Bauer (not to be confuse with the acerbic Joy Behar), a top nutritional expert I was more than happy to say yes. I’ve read some of Joy Bauers books and I really like her sensible and practical approach to healthy eating. The Everyday Health/Joy Bauer videos are called What the Heck Are You Eating? and a new one runs every Wednesday at 1pm EST. The latest video is called Give Me Some Sugar:

Isn’t Joy cute? There are 4 other videos in this series right now and they are all very entertaining and informative. The Everyday Health youtube channel has lots of videos, but I’ve only had the chance to check out the WTHAYE segments. If I have some down time this weekend, I’m going to check out the other stuff as well.

One last thing – you might have noticed the ads on my post. Through the magic of technology, there’s a chance I can make a little money having these ads on my site, and since I’ve been writing this blog for nearly 5 years I don’t think it’s a bad thing to earn a little revenue from it. I apologize if the ads bug you, but I wanted to try it and see how it works out.

Sheesh!!  That’s a lot of info to cram into one post!! I wanted to give you something to do while you leisurely enjoy your weekend, so really everything I do, I do it for you. Because I’m a giver that way.  ;)

Have a great weekend!

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I’ve been doing really well with my BED courses and feeling good about my progress, until yesterday. I woke up feeling puffy and bloated and hungry. I felt unusually hungry at lunchtime, eating more than I typically do which resulted in having less to eat for my afternoon snack. By the time I left work I was really hungry and still had to run some errands so by the time I got home I was ravenous. I won’t go into detail about how much I ate but trust me, it wasn’t pretty.

This morning I got up and got in a half-hearted run and it was all I could do to make breakfast and eat it ASAP. Then when I got to work, I STILL wanted to eat more. For the last couple of weeks or so, I really haven’t had these urges to eat so much. And then it dawned on me…a quick check of monthlyinfo.com confirmed my suspicion – I’m ovulating. I wondered if there is a correlation between ovulation and increased appetite so I did a quick Google search which returned several hits. Most of the hits I got were forum threads which asked the very same question I had, and the positive answers were plenty.

AHA!! It wasn’t just my imagination!  I’ll admit that I did not find one definitive study on this, but then again my Google search lasted all of 15 minutes, so there might actually be a study proving that appetite increases during ovulation, I just did not happen to stumble upon it. I’m relieved though to have found other women who have experienced this increase in appetite – it makes me feel more normal and less anxious about it.

So what say you all? Has anyone else experienced this? Do you all keep track of your cycles online?


Yesterday afternoon I was set to meet up with a friend of mine for a little decadent dessert and some much need girl-talk. On the way there, I had a little fender bender. No one was hurt, thankfully, but my pride suffered a serious blow. I was completely bummed out which sort of ruined my afternoon (and evening…and morning). I talked with the insurance folks and based upon point of impact alone, the fault was determined to be mine (I don’t dispute that – I wasn’t paying enough attention) and our liability insurance will pay to repair the other person’s car. My car had very minor damage and thankfully my next door neighbor is an auto-body guy so hopefully he can work his magic on my car.

I’m not sure I can handle any more “fun” for awhile.

Remember the I’m so stupid conversation I had with myself over the stupid face cream? Well the I’m so stupid tape started playing in my head again right after the accident, along with why did I do that? tape. It just wouldn’t stop this time. In fact, it’s still sort of playing today even though I’m really trying to fight it off. Apparently I have this deep-seated belief that I’m stupid because that’s usually the first thought that comes into my head when I do something wrong. Definitely will have to work on destroying that tape.

Overall, and except for my Sunday afternoon, I had a very nice weekend although I will admit I packed too much into it. Saturday I got to meet with a group of friends I hadn’t seen in a while, then I had some good bonding time with my youngest while we ran errands, then Saturday night the hubs built a campfire in the back yard and we all sat around it and just relaxed – but then I had to stay up late finishing up laundry and cleaning up the kitchen. Got up early Sunday morning, went to church, came home to finish a sewing project, had lunch, went to meet my friend, had the fender-bender, come home, more laundry, more sewing, more kitchen cleaning, then fell into bed exhausted but had a very restless sleep.

Over the weekend, my intention was to eat small portions, which I did, but the quality of my food was pretty awful. My meals were at irregular times and when I did eat, it wasn’t healthy, nourishing foods at all. Plus I drank very little water which is probably why I had a headache all night last night. So when the alarm buzzed this morning, I just didn’t have it in me to get up and run. I was tired, I was sad, and I knew my body didn’t have the fuel or hydration it needed to get me through a run. So I hit the snooze and dozed for another 45 minutes before I had to get up and get ready for work. Hopefully I’ll feel better tomorrow when I get up  - I definitely think a yoga day is in order!

I’m going to spend the rest of the day trying to turn my frown upside down. Hope you all are having a good Monday!

 


So after work yesterday I went to get my prescription for my rosacea-not-lupus skin cream filled. While walking around the drug store waiting for the pharmacist to do his thang, I wondered how much it would cost – I figured around $25, but then I thought no, it would probably be expensive just because everything is so expensive these days. When I heard my  name called, I walked up to the counter and the pharm tech slid the package across to me, pointed to the price and said in a lowish voice “were you aware of this?”  I looked at the price and I swear my eyes did that cartoon thing where they bug out several inches from my face and I think I made a weird noise as well.

$176.24 

!!!!!!!

I’m pretty sure I said “ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME WITH THIS?!?” (this seems to be my go-to phrase lately). He just shook his head and very sympathetically said, “no, I’m sorry but that’s the price. It’s actually higher than that, but your insurance paid a little on it already.”  I’m sure I stood there for a full five minutes ranting (not at the pharm tech guy – I realize he had no control over how much it cost) but ranting, nonetheless and he said (again very sympathetically) “you know you don’t have to take it. You can always call your doctor and see if there is another option.” I even said, “yeah I’ll do that because paying that price is just crazy!”. I stood there for a few more minutes (no one was behind me in line, don’t worry) and then for some reason I said “you know what let’s go ahead and do this”. He said “Are you sure?” and I said “yes”.

I don’t know why I did, but I did.

We have a health savings account that we thankfully, have not had to use very much, and that’s one of the reasons I went ahead and got it. The money was there, but still I think it’s just crazy to charge that much for face cream. I had asked the pharm tech why it was so much and he said it’s a new drug, there is no generic for it, and when new drugs come out they are always pretty expensive. Darn you pharmaceutical companies!!! *shaking fist in air*

I think I was seriously shell shocked. I walked out of the drug store with instant buyers remorse. Then the negative thoughts started and it was ugly: “I am so stupid for paying that much. I’m so stupid for not pushing that package back across the counter and saying ‘No, I refuse to pay that.’ I am so stupid for being so impulsive and not giving it a day to think about it. Why do I always have to learn these lessons the hard way? Why did I just do that? Why didn’t I just use the the teensy sample she gave me before I plunked down $200 for something that might not work? Why am I so stupid????”

These thoughts played in my mind over and over for the next half hour, until I finally told myself “I have got to stop with these thoughts. What’s done is done and beating myself up is not going to make the situation better.” I decided to counter my negative thoughts with more positive, less hurtful ones:

  • I’m not stupid, what’s stupid is charging that much for medication in the first place
  • It’s stupid that my doctor didn’t warn me about the price (although I wonder if she had any idea it was that much either)
  • It’s stupid that my doctor didn’t just give me several samples and THEN given me the scrip when I go back in 6 weeks
  • I’m not stupid.

I had to do this for another half hour to bring my blood pressure back down and then when I got home, of course I stampeded to my computer where I looked up the medicine and found some good reviews and also found that it not only reduces the appearance of rosacea, but it helps lighten dark spots on the face as well (I have a few really dark spots – the sun damage my derm was talking about) and if it really does lighten these spots, then the cost will be (almost) worth it.

I decided to spill my anxiety onto my husband because talking to him about things always seems to make me feel better, so when I told him the whole spiel, he just sort of shrugged and said “everything is more expensive than it should be nowadays. If it works, it will be worth it though, right?”  He’s not as freaky (read: cheap) as I am about money, so to him paying big bucks  for something you need is not a big deal. Somehow his calmness made me feel better about the whole thing and I relaxed and decided to just let it go.

So I am going to keep the face cream and start using it , but I damn well better come out with a whole new face when I finish this tube. If I don’t look 20 years old in 12 weeks, I’ma shank somebody (I’m looking at you big pharmaceutical company).


I went to the dermatologist today because I’ve had something that looked like a butterfly rash on my face and a rash on my forehead for the last year or so. If you know anything about butterfly rashes, you know they are often linked to the auto-immune disease Lupus. Yeah, scary stuff. But thankfully my Dr doesn’t think I have a butterfly rash, instead she thinks it is rosacea, so we are treating it as such with a topical cream and SUNSCREEN. Yes, she scolded me for not wearing sunscreen every day since I already have a lot of sun damage on my face (ah, the carefree days of youth!) and now I have some samples of facial sunscreen that I get to try out. And also…well, there’s this embarrassing story about the real reason I went to the Derm…I had this mole appear on my back right in the middle and it was getting somewhat bigger (I could feel it, but I couldn’t really see it, obviously) and of course my wild imagination immediately went to MELANOMA!!! So the Doc checks me out and says all my moles look normal – she wasn’t concerned about any of them. I asked her to look at the offending mole on my back and she said “Oh that? That’s a blackhead.”

WHAT?!? ARE YOU SERIOUS????

“Yep. It’s a blackhead. No big deal.” So apparently I’ve had this…this…THING growing on me for a month now and all it was was an oil slick where my sports bra rubs my upper back. Niiiice. The nurse could tell I was super embarrassed about it so she said “would you like me to remove that for you?” I said “YES PLEASE!” a little too loudly and then she took some sharp pointy stick thing (technical term) and got it out. Then she proceeded to tell me that she has one too…on her butt. I laughed out loud (Lol’d, if you will) when she described how she couldn’t reach it and it was really a pain in the butt to her! I love it when people try to make you feel better by being more disgusting than you!  God bless that nurse.

I go back for a follow up in six weeks to see if this treatment is working and I hope to GOD I don’t have any more mutant blackheads to report. I might not be able to handle the embarrassment.

 


This article has me throwing my hands up in the air and wondering when all the madness will end. If you don’t want to click on the link, here’s the rundown: apparently there’s this diet called the KE Diet where a doctor inserts a feeding tube UP YOUR NOSE and into your stomach for ten days AS A WAY TO LOSE WEIGHT QUICKLY.

?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

According to the article, it’s a popular way for brides-to-be to lose weight so they can fit into their wedding gowns on that glorious day. The article profiled one woman and said this:

Slipping into a wedding gown for a dream wedding is a moment of truth for most brides, but as many say that there is a real fear that it will not quite fit. That’s how Jessica Schnaider says she felt with a June wedding approaching and 10 pounds she says she couldn’t lose. She was desperate for a quick fix.

I don’t have all of the time on the planet just to focus an hour and a half a day to exercise so I came to the doctor, I saw the diet, and I said, ‘You know what? Why not? Let me try it. So I decided to go ahead and give it a shot,” she said. (emphasis mine)

She goes on to say that emotionally, the diet was hard, but she wasn’t hungry for those ten days. That’s just what you want to be, is an emotional wreck right before your wedding. I’m sorry but I feel like this is a really shallow thing to be thinking about before your wedding. I mean, your fiance thought you were beautiful enough as you were to ask you get married in the  first place, right? I wonder what all the fiances are thinking during all this – I mean wouldn’t you think your significant other was a little nutty if they did something this drastic?  And I’m sure her friends and family had to think she was off her rocker. She even says she had to keep convincing people she wasn’t sick:

“And sometimes I had to give excuses to people who were asking are you sick? And I was like, ‘No, I’m not sick, I’m not dying, I’m fine.’

This would be enough to make me NOT want to do this. I can’t imagine running into someone at WalMart and having to explain to them that “hey I’ve got this feeding tube shoved up my  nose so I can lose ten pounds – don’t I look great?!?”

This “procedure” costs approximately $1500 for the ten day treatment and what struck me as odd is that this woman had this done recently, but her wedding isn’t until this summer. Her wedding is in June and it’s now April – plenty of time for her to gain ten pounds back, especially since she lost it so fast! I would think if someone were going to have this done, they would do it right before the wedding, but that’s just me.

I thought the HGC Diet was whack-a-doodle, but KE Diet takes the top place in my list of Crazy Fad Diets.

I don’t begrudge anyone wanting to look their best on that special day, but at least give exercising and eating healthy a try before you go do something as drastic as this. I feel that she had plenty of time to lose the weight the old fashioned way. And I know how hard it is to lose those last ten (or twenty or fifty) pounds, but a feeding tube? Really?

What’s next?

I don’t even want to know.

Edited to Add: Upon re-reading my post, I realize that I sound really judge-y and that is not my intention. I am a big proponent of Finding What Works For YOU, but I just think this K-E Diet sounds dangerous and unhealthy.  The fact that it is even an option is what I have such a hard time accepting. I don’t think the women who do this are horrible, stupid people – I think it’s sad that they feel such pressure to go to such lengths. I have felt that quiet desperation myself a time or two, so I understand WHY it sounds desirable to them, but I also feel that there are safer, healthier ways to go about losing those vanity pounds. 


Happy Tuesday E’rbody!

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So I got my happy arse out of bed at 5:30 this morning and did some yoga. When it was over I remember thinking “that was definitely worth getting up for!!” I love yoga and I don’t know why I don’t do it more. Oh yeah, because I work full time and have 3 kids and a husband to deal with, that’s why. Some days I really don’t mind getting up early to work out and other days it feels like it was an idea spawned by the devil himself, but getting my workouts done early is usually the only way they get done at all,

I forgot to mention that the lovely and talented Crabby McSlacker had a “best weight loss blogger” poll a few weeks ago and guess who showed up on the “multiple votes” list? Me! Thanks to the 3 of you who nominated my little blog – I appreciate it!! 

So I had a talk with my mom and sisters about menopause and I’m pretty sure I’m falling face-first into  perimenopause. I am not currently having night sweats, but I was about a year ago when my weight was at it’s all time highest, which I’m pretty close to again. I don’t think I’ve ever had a hot flash, and I sleep pretty well at night, but the up and down of my emotions is starting to get the better of me.  My friend Amy had mentioned that she takes Amberen and I’ve also been told by another friend that it works great. I did some research and have concluded that it’s one of those things that works great for some and not at all for others. I also found that the active ingredient in Amberen is succinic acid which can be purchased at about 1/10th the cost of Amberen. Have any of you ever had any experience with either Amberen or succinic acid? These last 4 weeks of my life have been a total roller coaster and I can’t imagine living like this for the next 10 years or so while my body goes through menopause. Oh and here’s something weird – my Lady Time came a week early this month, but if you figure I was a week late last month, I actually started exactly when I was supposed to if I had started on time last month. Confused? Me too. Being a woman is hard. 

What would you all think if I threw in a few vlogs here from time to time? Do you like video blogs or you do you tend to skip over them? Some days I would love to just ramble into a camera and not worry about taking the time to write, even though writing is very cathartic for me. Just something for you all to ponder – let me know in the comments if you like this idea or not. 

Okay kids, I got work to do and you’ve got stuff to do or other blogs to read or pins to pin or something, so get to it! Enjoy your day! 


I’ve had this post in mind for a couple of weeks but just haven’t made the time to sit down and write it. For nearly 15 years I’ve been bouncing back and forth like a pinball in the machine looking for the “right” diet to help me with this weight problem. I’ve tried so many things, some with great but not lasting success, and most with little to no success at all. When I finally decided that no diet is ever going to help me because IT’S NOT ABOUT THE FOOD, I started searching for non-food answers.  As I mentioned in this post, I’ve been looking at binge eating disorder programs and have found a couple that I feel are a good fit for me. I’m in the middle of one course now and will probably start another one very soon. If I feel that I need more help than the online courses can give me, I’m going to go a step further and either get a personal coach or start seeing a therapist.

I cannot tell you how relieving it is to have finally zeroed in on a course of action. To feel in my gut that this is the right direction is a very calming feeling – getting out of the pinball machine feels great. Manipulating my food has always felt wrong to me – like my intuition was screaming at me “NO NO!! This is the wrong direction!! We need to go a different way!!”, but BED treatment feels right. The course I am taking now focuses a lot on self-esteem, positive talk, and visualization – something that I originally scoffed at, but I actually feel like it’s helping, so I’m going to suspend judgement for now. I’m purposely not mentioning the websites for the courses because I want to see how well I do with them before I recommend them to you all.

I fully intend to clean up my eating sooner rather than later, but FOR NOW, the focus is on my behaviors around food instead of the food itself. One of the things that has helped quite a bit is limiting myself to eating 4 meals a day and eating ONLY at meal time. At first I was sort of afraid to do this, but honestly there is freedom in having limits. I didn’t understand that for a long time, but I’m starting to appreciate it. One positive side effect of this limit is that since I’m only eating at meal time, I’m eating less sugar overall.  If I want something sweet, I have it with my lunch and I’m good for the day.  I added in the 4th meal in the late afternoon since I go to lunch early and then don’t eat dinner for approx 7 hours later, so I find a small meal between 2-4 works great.

All of this works great during the week, but the weekends are still a challenge. Yesterday was especially challenging, what with all the Easter candy laying about. I did exactly what I didn’t want to do which was eat all afternoon long, but I got up this morning and worked out and felt great. I’m also drinking lots of water to hopefully flush out all the bad stuff.

Speaking of exercise, I’ve been running about 3 days per week, but I feel like I need to do more. I had intended to add some strength training to the schedule but was having a hard time figuring out what to do – the Wii Fit takes too long between exercises and I’m not very good at just banging out some push ups and crunches on my own. I’ve been thinking about taking a yoga class again at the rec center in the evenings, but then I had the brilliant idea that I could pop in a yoga dvd on the mornings that I don’t run and I could knock out the strength training AND get some stretching in at the same time. My goal this week is to follow that schedule. I’ll let you know how it goes. Again, zeroing in on a plan feels good to me – I don’t do well with too many choices, it seems.

I am done with floundering around hoping for Mr. Right Diet to come along. He’s not out there and never will be. I believe I have everything I need to overcome my food issues, it’s just going to take time and patience and EFFORT to bring it to fruition.

 


I was a week late for my Lady Time. I am never late. Ever.

My tata’s are tender even though Lady Time ended a week ago.

I’m weepy as sh*t.

I’ve got a crazy mad Peeps craving.

My husband didn’t kiss me good night one night and so naturally I think he’s having an affair with a 28 year old Victoria’s Secret model.

I ate 5 Pillsbury cinnamon rolls yesterday.

My middle is expanding like Homer Simpson’s beer belly.

I’ve got a crazy mad chocolate bunny craving. 

I have been alternately sad/mad for many, many days now.

I’m 41. I think I’m a little young, but eh, whatever. 


And before you even say it, no I’m not pregnant. The husband got snipped after #3 was born (and yes, I know that sometimes it grows back or whatever. Shut up). So that leaves menopause or crazy. Flip a coin because really, it could be either one at this point. 



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