Good gravy, it’s the end of October already. Time is passing way too fast for me these days…I’m still stuck in June!
So the voting for Shape.com’s Best Blogger Awards is over and I did not come in dead last, but I came close! I am thrilled that I have so many new readers now, so it’s all good. For the 3 of you who voted for me, I thank you. It was fun to be a part of it.
Since I got so much great advice on this post, I wanted to give everyone an update on how things are going with my 6 year old daughter Mallory. I got all kinds of advice about how to deal with her, everything from having her tested for ADHD to ignoring her, and it was all good advice, but I thought it was funny that the underlying theme that ran in a lot of the comments was “stop being such a push-over!” And alas, that’s exactly what I was. However, since then I’ve been more firm with her and have been limiting her choices, and yes occasionally ignoring her when the dramatic pout comes into play. And it is working really well. Who’da thunk it? She still has her moments, but mostly over the last couple of weeks, the whining, the negotiating, the arguing…all of that has decreased exponentially. When she freaks out over something not fitting right, I ask her exactly what is bothering her and we can usually work something out together. Or if she is just being a little bit stubborn because I won’t let her wear an outfit for the third day in a row to school, I will tell her that either she can choose an outfit or I will choose one for her – that usually takes care of the problem. She’s pretty fast at choosing an outfit if she thinks I’ll be choosing something horrendous, because even at six years old, she is a little fashionista and of course Mom knows nothing of what’s “in” with the first grade set. I am keeping an eye on the tactile-sensitivity thing because I think that might have something to do with it, but mostly I think she was just used to getting her way so much of the time. It’s true what “they” say: kids do better with boundaries. Thanks to all of you who offered advice and helped me realize that it’s okay to be THE PARENT. Y’all rock my casbah. :)
Let’s what else shall we talk about today? Oh yes, the Halloween thing. That seems to be a big topic amongst weight loss bloggers. And why shouldn’t it? Halloween is the first hurdle in the Trifecta of Diet Doom (Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas). If you avoid the thousands and thousands of Fun Size candy bars, only 3 weeks later you have to deal with the gluttonous feast of Thanksgiving (mmmm…pumpkin pie), and then there’s a whole month of Christmas parties, neighborly treats, and the almighty Christmas dinner, which looks suspiciously like a Thanksgiving Feast.
But let’s focus on Halloween today, shall we? I’m not going to talk about the evils of eating piece after piece after piece after piece after piece of candy (not that I’ve ever had any experience with that…ahem), I’m going to tell you how I handle Halloween with my kids. We live in a smallish town so we do the traditional Trick or Treating – finding a neighborhood with lots of porch lights on that we can hit up. Then…we walk. I’m old school – I don’t believe in driving my kids from house to house down the street. That’s just plain lazy* and it creates all kinds of unnecessary congestion on a street where little ones tend to dart out unexpectedly. No, we park our car and WE WALK. Armed with flashlights and comfy shoes, we walk ourselves ALL OVER that darn neighborhood and we don’t stop until we have hit every last house in said neighborhood. We walk until we are all tired and the kids are all dragging their loot behind them. Then when we get home and the kids dump all their candy out on the floor and rummage through to see what kinds of goodies they got. They immediately throw out the DOTS (seriously, that is the nastiest candy in the world – why bother?), pick out all the Whoppers (the malted milk kind, not the burger kind) and give them to me – it’s my favorite, and then they eat a few pieces. They usually have a few pieces every day for the next few weeks. Yep, I said weeks. If I go look in their rooms right now, I could probably find a few stray pieces leftover from last year. They don’t HAVE TO EAT IT ALL RIGHT NOW like some people would like to *coughmecough* and they are content to just eat what they like for the time being. I don’t feel the need to hide it away from them and hand out one piece per day, for them it doesn’t have the same kind of hold that it does for me. And I’m so very grateful for that. I don’t see the need to change anything right now, so we’ll stick with this formula. And if I’m being really honest, it doesn’t have the hold over me that it used to. I’ll eat a couple of pieces and be fine with it. It’s taken me many years to figure out that if I eat too much candy, I don’t feel so great. Like I’ve said before, I’m a turtle…I’m slower than most.
Well it’s the weekend and I don’t want to spend any more time in front of the computer. I’ve got an appointment with my treadmill and possibly my sewing machine (yay for crafts!!), so I’m outta here. I hope you all have a great weekend!
*seriously, unless you have a handicapped child or are yourself handicapped, please get out and WALK this Halloween. It’s good for your heart and will help burn the calories you consume when you sneak candy from your kids bags. (Don’t act like you don’t do it, too.)