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A 40-something woman trying to lose 40-something pounds

Monthly Archives: May 2008

Happy Friday Folks!!

 

 

First off, wow – you guys have lots to say when it comes to chores!  I’m eager to hear more, so if you haven’t already, go here and leave me a comment on what you would do!  I have some ideas in mind for my own kiddos, but I want to see what happens when I run it past them, and then I’ll do a post about it next week, k? 

 

I’m still formulating Post #2 in my Changing My Thinking Series (that sounds like a title for an infomercial, no?), so when I can get some of my points a little more in order, I’ll post that too.

 

So what am I going to post about today? 

 

Well, here’s the deal.  I’m bored with WW…again. 

 

Going back to WW in February was kind of like getting back together with an old boyfriend – at first you remember all the good times and the fun you had and how it was exciting and new, and then after a while you remember why you broke up in the first place.  It just isn’t working out. 

 

I don’t know why, but I always fall into the trap of eating the crap that has the most artificial sweeteners in it, and then 2 and 3-point snacking my way through a whole day’s worth of points.  And it doesn’t matter that I go over my daily points allowance, I just write it all down and keep going over!!  So I think it’s better if I get out now, instead of hanging around to see if it’s going to get worse.   I’ve done this often enough that I know my heart really isn’t in it, and plus I can use that $40 a month on something really important, like shoes.  

 

So what will I do now?  I’ve got something in the works, but I don’t want to go into it right now.   Still have some tweaking to do before I lay it all out on the table, ya know? 

 

So, (I start off a lot of my sentences with that don’t I?) in lieu of Changing the World!, here are some pictures of animals in unnaturally disturbing garb. 

 

Have a good weekend!!

 

breed

puppies

funny dog pictures

Weird.

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I have been thinking a lot about portion sizes and why my portion sizes are what they are today.  I thought it was just because, “they’ve always been that way”, but I started back tracking down memory lane and I realize, I didn’t always feel the need to eat Godzilla-sized portions.  When I was in high school, my best friend Kristy always used to tease me because I could never finish a hamburger. Ever.  It didn’t matter if it was the smallest burger on the menu, I could never finish it.  Of course I had a small fries and a med Coke to go with it, but I hardly ever finished those either.  I would probably eat ¾ of my hamburger and mostly all of my fries, but that little bit of burger would fill me up and last for quite a while. 

 

In college, lunch was usually a sandwich or Spagettios eaten directly from the can (good times, good times) or a few chips with Rotel dip.  Dinner was a mini pizza from the restaurant I worked in, or sometimes cheese sticks (the fried kind).  These weren’t perhaps the healthiest foods I could have been eating, but I would only eat about half of what was given before I was full.  I ate what I wanted and saved the rest for later.  Needless to say I was teeny tiny back then.  We also (my roommate and I) walked 3 miles everyday (I swear she was a Nazi about it!), and we went dancing every weekend, so I’m sure that contributed to my small waist, but my food portions were very small as well.  

 

After I got married, I worked a late shift 2-3 nights a week, and so my husband would cook dinner and wait until I got home to eat.  His idea of cooking meant Hamburger Helper with mashed potatoes and some sort of starchy veggie like corn or ranch style beans, or peas.  So when I got home, he would have dinner served up on a plate waiting for me.  Of course, he put huge portions of everything on my plate – he thought I would be starving, but the portions were equal to what HE would eat when he was starving.  I would tell him, “There’s no way I can eat all that!!” But I would try, and eventually I did, over and over again, until I got used to man-sized portions.  And that’s how it has been for the last 12 years.  I’ve tried “eating smaller portions”, but that is kind of a relative measurement – smaller than what?  Smaller than the Super Extra Gigantic Value Meal size?  Well, okay, but chances are I would still be eating way too much. 

 

Maybe a focus on child size portions would be better for now.  That might be easier to visualize in a pinch, don’t you think?  I would really like to get back to eating the amount that is right for me, and just like eating huge amounts has become a habit; maybe I can get back into the habit of eating smaller portions. 

 

All of this is in relation to a larger theme I have going on in my head lately – changing my thinking – about portion sizes, about certain foods and how I thought I loved them, about doing certain things because that’s the way I’ve always done them.  Hmmm…do I sense a SERIES of posts to come?  That might not be a bad idea, because although a lot of this is just a way for me to sort it all out in my own head, chances are good that someone else in the same boat could benefit from my ramblings.  Tomorrow’s post may be a part II of this series; we’ll see how it goes.

 

Check back tomorrow, I may have a brilliant post about CHANGING THE WORLD! Or if I am really tired, I may just have some dumb jokes and pictures of animals in drag, who knows.  J

 

 ETA:  I’m still getting comments about my last post, so I am going to wait until they are all in before I do a post about the comments on my post, and then I’ll comment on the comments…did ya get all that?! ;)


I have this issue that I need some help with, and just to let you know this has nothing to do with fitness, or weight loss, or anything to do with healthy living.  It’s about my kids, my son in particular.   Monkey* is 11 and he is dangerously close to becoming one of those lazy, video game playing, TV-addicted kids, you know, the kind of kid we all hope our kids DON’T turn out to be.  He is very quiet, introspective, and doesn’t give us much trouble at all, but he has no drive or ambition whatsoever.  He does not have an aggressive bone in his skinny little body.   My issue is…

 

Summer Chores (gasp! No!  Not Summer Chores!!!)

 

 I know, I know, but just hear me out. 

 

I feel like this is the summer where he either learns how be responsible and grows into a decent human being, or he becomes completely lazy and lives with his parents until he is 30 (I CANNOT, for the sake of my own sanity, let that happen).    Also, my daughter SuzyQ* is 7, and Priss* is 3 and I know they are old enough to be helping out some as well.  I don’t expect a lot of Priss of course, but it’s never too early to start. 

 

I will admit, I have been at fault for not being consistent with chores, and I let them get away with not helping out far more often than I should have, but I’m at a point where I cannot do it all by myself anymore.  When I was a SAHM, sure I could do most of it, but not anymore, not with working full time, and running to different activities and such.  

 

We have tried charts and tickets and stickers, but nothing seems to hold their interest for very long.  I have always started with the intention of paying them for their chores, but honestly sometimes, I just can’t afford it, and really should they be paid for helping out around the house? 

 

So what do you all do?  What works or did work for you when your kids were young?  And what kinds of jobs do you think are appropriate for an 11 year old boy and a 7 year old girl? 

 

And what do you do if the chores don’t get done?  Do you ground them, or take away their toys?  This is also something I have trouble with – I don’t have a set example of what happens when they fail to do their chores.  

 

 

I am anxious to hear what you all have to say about this, so please leave a comment!  I would like to start this as soon as possible and I’ll post some of your ideas tomorrow so feel free to share!  Thanks!!

 

 

*obviously not their real names, but these are their real nicknames. This is what I call them most of the time anyway.     


I really don’t have time to post today, but I just wanted to pop in and say hey to everyone.  Hope you all had a good looooong weekend. :)

 

I’ll be back to post tomorrow! 


After my “lifestyle change” rant yesterday, a couple of commenters (Vickie & Debby) made some good points:  the word “diet” is another one of those grrrr-inducing words.  Diet, I believe, actually means what you eat on a daily basis, such as “the koala survives on a diet of eucalyptus leaves” or “the diet of a rabbits consists largely of salads from the buffet at Jason’s Deli”.  I’m kidding, of course, but you get my point.  Nowadays it means “so you’re on the cigarettes and cabbage leaves diet to lose weight right?”  It now means a way of eating strictly for the end result of lost weight (I made that up, but it sounds official, doesn’t it?!).   Debby made this point “I agree with Vickie about the word “diet” just because to most people “diet” has a beginning and an end, and that is why most people regain all the weight they’ve lost.”  I completely agree, and when I said “let’s go back to using the word “diet”” I wasn’t really using it in that context.  I was using it in the context of this is what I eat everyday. So that being said, I probably could have come up with a better ending to my post, but I was pressed for time and needed to shut the thing down, and so I just threw that last part in there.  I personally don’t want to be on a diet, or a lifestyle change – I want to learn how to eat better and learn what my body can do when I exercise it regularly, oh, and in the process of that, I want to lose 40 pounds. ;)

And while I’m thinking of it, go check out Debby’s blog and read her latest post –she is new to bloggyland and  this is one cool lady who has accomplished some very cool stuff!  (Debby, I’m still waiting to find out what you did with the cookie conundrum!)

 

Okay, on to American Idol (you may skip this part if you didn’t watch) cause Laura and I have some celebrating to do!!!  David Cook won and I am so, so happy that he did, not just because Tulsa is his old stomping grounds, but because he is a great personality on stage.  He mixes the bad boy rocker attitude with boy- next- door niceness (did you hear him sing Music of the Night?  Swoon!!!)  and I find that hard to resist!  David Archuletta is a great singer, but I think he needs just a few more years to mature, when he hits twenty one, watch out because he is going to be a hottie!  I think they are two different types of singers, both good in their own right – David Cook is more along the lines of Chris Daughtry, while David Archuletta reminds me of Michael Buble and Josh Grobin (double swoon!).  I know the Idol Tour is coming to Tulsa on Sept 13th but I doubt if I could get tickets now, I may have to check into that.  I really enjoyed this season and I’m a little misty to see it end, but hey… there’s always America’s Got Talent, right? (That was sarcasm… in case you thought I was serious.) :)

 


Since the bad mood has filtered its way into day 3, there’s something I just have to get off my chest…

 

                               It’s not a diet, it’s a lifestyle change!”

 

I am so sick to death of this phrase that if I hear it one more time, I’m going to go Britney and shave my head in a total freak out.  Who was the marketing moron who came up with this?  Eating healthier and working out, are just that – eating healthier and working out.  I don’t think I need to overhaul my WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE just to be a little bit healthier, do I?  No.

 

A lifestyle change for me would be if I suddenly became a vegetarian lesbian.  THAT’S a lifestyle change, but eating a few more salads and walking a few times a week – not so much.  (And if you are a vegetarian lesbian, great, more power to you!  You go be the best veggie lesbian you can be and I’ll continue to be the best hetero carnivore I can be.) 

 

My lifestyle is dictated by factors other than what I eat and how often (or not) I work out.  Let’s say I do lose 50 pounds in a year.  Will my lifestyle really be that different than it is now?  I’ll still have the same husband, the same kids, and the same house.  I’ll still have tons of laundry to do, my bathroom will still be slightly disgusting, and my car will most likely still be the same POS it is now.  I will still get up and come to work everyday and I will have to cook dinner most every night.   My lifestyle will be the same, my ass will just be smaller, that’s all.    

 

Yes, yes I know that with weight loss come a certain amount of self esteem and self confidence that can lead a person to do things s/he would not normally have done previously – run a marathon, take a trip, etc.  But does it REQUIRE a change in lifestyle in order to happen?  NO! 

 

Telling overweight people that they have to overhaul their whole entire lives in order to be healthy is not the  way to get someone off the couch and into a gym.  However,  if ”they” were to tell people, “yes you can do this, you just have to find a way to make it fit into your daily life”, I could get on board with that, but if you tell me I have to change my lifestyle? Forget it; I like my lifestyle, which is why I choose to live it everyday. 

 

Diet has become a four letter word these days, and no one wants to admit they are on a “diet” anymore, but the term “lifestyle change” is just a euphemism for diet, so what’s the difference?  Can we please just go back to using the word “diet”?  It takes fewer syllables to say and it’s a term we all understand. 

               

I’ll go first – my DIET consists of mostly healthy foods with a few junky items thrown in for good measure.  I work out a little, not as much as I would like, but I get it in when I can.  I am losing weight, albeit slowly, but I’m finding ways to work these things in to my already jam-packed days. 

 

And doing it this way fits my lifestyle just fine, thank you very much.


Am in a bad mood today and cannot think of anything funny or witty to post about, so I won’t.

 

This is kinda how I feel today:

funny pictures

 

 

 

 

This kinda sums it up nicely too:

Humorous Pictures

 

 

Okay, just one more:

 

funny dog pictures


Sorry for the lack of postings lately – work has been crazy and life has been even crazier.  I have a post about accountability rolling around in my brain, just no time to put words to keyboard.  Here’s a question for you that I have been thinking about lately – do you use food as a reward?  I know the current wisdom is to say never never ever use food as a reward, but I like food, and I like to be rewarded, so is a weekly splurge after weigh in a boon or a bust?  I would loooove to know everyone’s thoughts on this one – should make for some interesting discussions!  And if you do use food as a reward, what kind of food?  Do you go for chocolate or ice cream, or chocolate ice cream?  How about alcohol – do you use a glass of wine as a reward (my preference would be a margarita, but that’s just me).  All you lurkers out there, now is the time to make your voice heard on this oh-so-very important issue!  And I promise to deliver a real post next week when things have slowed down a bit (I hope). 

 

Have a great weekend y’all!! 

 


I have tons of work to do today so I will keep this super short.  I had THE BEST oatmeal this morning.  I like to call it Elvis Oatmeal.  Can you guess what’s in it???

 

Oatmeal, peanut butter, and banana.

 

 

So yummy I had to sing “I Can’t Help Falling In Love With You”

 

Thankyouthankyouverymuch.

 

 

 


Happy Monday everyone!!

 

I hope you all had a good relaxing weekend, I know I did.

 

Is it completely weird that my last post gave me the most comments I have ever had on my blog?  Who knew that bras and nipplage were such popular subjects?  Thanks for all the advice – I’m going shopping this weekend (God willing) and I am going to look for some *helpers* or at the very least new bras. 

 

 

I finished Pasta Queen’s book Friday night, amid  shouts of joy of my family (yay! Mom’s not ignoring us anymore!!).  It’s a great read and I plan on reading it again.  I’d give you a full review, but I figure you can find reviews better than the one I would give (go check out Laura’s review), so I’ll just say – I liked it. A lot.  Good job PQ!!

 

Yesterday (after much lying around doing a whole lot of nothing), we went to a restaurant called The Hammett House – a place my MIL loves to go for every holiday. It’s a mom and pop place, but it thinks it is very fancy, which it really isn’t, but if you know anything about small town politics, you know that places like this they are better than any chain restaurant.  I have never been really crazy about this place – its food is overpriced and just so-so and the only time we go there is when MIL has something to celebrate (birthday, Mother’s Day, etc).  Yesterday, however, my opinion of The HH changed.  I had THE BEST SALAD EVER IN THE HISTORY OF SALADS.  Oh my word, people, you have never tasted such deliciousness in all you life.  The name was something like “Caramelized Salmon with Strawberries Salad”.  They had me at *caramelized*.  It was chunks of salmon that was caramelized (no, really?), with slivered almonds, red onion, strawberries, chilled bowtie pasta, on a bed of spinach leaves with raspberry vinaigrette dressing.  Ho.Ly. Cow!!!  I must learn to make this salad.  The bowtie pasta really didn’t add anything, but it was different, so I figure you could add it in or not and the salad would be just as good.  I don’t know how many calories were in this thing and I don’t care.  I’m salivating just thinking about it now!!  Yum!! 

 

After all the deliciousness of Mother’s Weekend (cause you really can’t limit it to just one day), I knew I needed to walk this morning, only when my alarm went off, I didn’t get up.  For some odd reason, I just didn’t want to walk.  I had a couple of really good cardio pumping walks over the weekend (dare I say I ran a little? I actually ran a lot on Saturday), so I was looking forward to my walk this morning.  But this morning I just said “no”, and reset my alarm and didn’t get on the tm.  Now I feel like I forgot to brush my teeth or put deodorant on or something.  I just feel off.   I’ll probably try to walk this afternoon just so I can say I did it.  That’s a funny thing for a couch potato to say, don’t you think?

 

 



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